It’s petty but still
Dh had a huge come to Jesus with ss16 last night because for the 3D week in a row he didn't show up to our house (we are supposed to have them M-w), didn't answer calls and turned location services off. After DH finally had to contact BM they got ahold of him and he called DH. Needless to say, there was a firm discussion about respect and accountability- the boy literally lies about everything. BM has zero rules and zero consequences the kids get anything and away with anything; she even texted DH to Not be hard on him, he's just a 16 year old boy blah blah. Anyway he finally comes to our house and all he can Talk about is how he is planning a surprise party for his mom and how awesome it's going to be. I've been in their life for 2 years now and they haven't gotten DH a single bday or Father's Day, Christmas anything for him..... I even try to offer money or take them shopping. DH is not mean; he is the most kind hearted loving father I've ever met. He makes sure kids treat him with respect but he never has raised his voice or even grounded them. We just have boundaries at our home. Anyway it just flies all over me.... it's not like it's even a special birthday (44). Ugh it all just gets under my skin and this seems like the only safe place I can vent. I've joined Facebook groups but I can't post anonymously.