The saga continues
So my stepson has been given the ultimatum to go to jobcorp. His Dad and Mom are on the same page and discussed it with him yesterday, talked about the opportunities available to him and the jobs he can get into after he gets his diploma there. Everything seemed fine until today when he writes this long dramatic and nasty message about how his Dad will finally be proud of him if he goes to jobcorp and he thinks I hate him and that his brother is much smarter than him blah blah blah. Not one time has anything ever been said about me not liking him. It could be that I have zero connection with him and I see through his manipulative bullshit. It grinds my gears that he even thought to bring his brother into this and I will not tolerate it. I don't know how to handle this other than to call out the manipulation and put a stop to it. He can never take responsibility for his own actions and blames everyone but himself this is causing the whole house to be stressed and he doesn't even live here. I told my husband with this kind of stuff happening i don't think he should even live here after he gets out of jobcorp. He sits in his room all day on his phone, failed 10th grade twice and he's too embarrassed to go back to school because he's 17 and in 10 grade again. All he talks about is smoking his weed pen and how his ex girlfriend is toxic lol. I've never dealt with this in my life but now it's become a problem because my husband blames me for never putting effort into a relationship with his son. He's not lived with us except for a few months and ran off when things got too hard and cried to mommy. I've barely had the opportunity to form a relationship and now at this point with the way he acts I don't even want to. My husband has guilt as I've previously stated and his son plays off that. His son was supposed to call him later this evening but never returned the call and I believe it's because he's been pushed into a corner now that his mom and dad are on the same page about things. My husband is depressed and I don't know what to do. I've mentioned therapy several times it's up to him to act on that. I'd appreciate more feed back on this, sorry it's so scattered, my brain is fried.