So my husband has disregarded my wishes for his son to not live with us and he's here now. He hasn't been too bad but he does need constant reminders and guidance which grinds my gears because he will be 18 in about 9 months. He's been enrolled in a alternative school but has no clue how to apply for jobs online. His Dad is becoming frustrated because not only does he have to work but he has to hold his manchilds hand on top of that. He lashes out at me like I'm supposed to be doing all of this. I originally said he needs to go to Jobcorp or a similar program and Jobcorp has yet to get back to us. I did however out of the kindness of my heart set up a zoom meeting with a different program that's more like military school and they both sat and listened to what would be expected of him if he went. Well he freaked out and didn't say a word after the meeting. I told my husband he came here to change his ways he's going or I will completely stop lifting one finger for him or you. His son has been coddled and allowed to do what he wants back home but stuff doesn't go that way here and I'm tired of letting him dictate what he's going to do, he's done that for years. This is his last opportunity to get his life straightened out and the program is 5 and half months it's less time than Jobcorp so I would like to say put on your big boy panties and do something about it. He's expressed to me he knows what he needs to do but I also have to remember he's a great manipulator and he's great with words but fails when it comes to actions. I basically told him I'll believe it when I see it. He wants a car and a tattoo but without committing to this program and having a plan for your life that's not even a possibility at the moment. His Dad tries to approach him in a way where he doesn't come off abrasive but I'm sorry he had that at mommy's and it didn't work. I don't play around and I know all the tricks and manipulations. He can tell me all the things he will do and until I see it, it means nothing to me. I've already encountered his excuses for simply picking up the bathroom after he showers, he replies but but but and I just ignored it. I guess I just have low tolerance for bs. Anyway I guess this was just another rant lol. Thanks for listening.