BM self-esteem issues
Has anyone else noticed a BM putting their awful self-esteem issues on their daughters? Example: SD7 and I were watching tv and she commented on how pretty a woman on a show was. I agreed. Then she goes on to say "sometimes my mom asks me who is prettier? me or (myself)?" I responded with just an "ohhh..." and she goes on to say "my mom thinks she's fat". And that spurred us on into a conversation about how I think every girl should find herself pretty and that she is very pretty....so on. (conversation aside, this girl is absolutely beautiful) Since then we have multiple conversations in the same vein...and she has started to ask how much fat is in her meals...her dad and I are just concerned that she is going to pick up on her BM's foul self image. Is anyone else experiencing this? Was there anything you could say to BM to get her to keep her negative comments to herself or at least away from her daughters' ears?