Step kids vs birth kids
Step parenting is much harder than raising my own kids. My kids are grown 30 & 21 I actually have a grand son older than my SS.
My complaint is this. If I am expected to be involved in the parenting of his son then why when I make criticisms about personal hygiene and eating habits am I given nasty looks. My kids were bathing on their own and brushing their teeth at age 7. They were also expected to eat the meal that was prepared for the whole family not given a special menu of McDonald's because he doesn't feel like eating what I've made. I know that BM doesn't rush to provide a special meal! He is a snooper, I've caught him in my drawers playing with my jewelry and he has lit candles that were put away prior to his arrival by using a lighter that was also away yet I'm constantly told he is just curious! I'm at the point where I feel like I'm a free babysitter.
My 21 year old is still at home and working a full time job but DH doesn't hesitate to remark about his quirks! My son has OCD and is a hand washer. At least his hands are clean unlike my SS.
Don't get me wrong, I love my SS but feel like the parenting is very one sided yet I'm expected to jump in.