My very controversial decision
I haven't been on here for a while.
I am married to man who has a 12 year old son, and a troublemaking ex-wife. When I met my SO, his son was 6. I have been through ALL the troubles that we all read about here. This includes dealing with the Disneyland dad, who spoils, doesn't discipline, gets defensive, dealing with a step kid who is babyish for his age, is clingy, needy, and isn't learning to function the way a normal child should learn to function in society.... and dealing with an ex-wife who is a jealous, vindictive, trouble-making bitch. I've been through it all and seen it all.
(Also, for those of you who don't know me, I'm the one who stays at her parents house every time SO has his son to stay every other weekend).
However , about two months ago, SO and I were getting ready for our trip to Bali. He had his son the very weekend before we left. And the ex-wife was obviously jealous that we were going on an overseas trip. I reckon she deliberately planted destructive ideas in her son's head. Because on the Saturday night, I was about to sit down to dinner with my parents, and THIS happened:
I got the following text messages from my 12 year-old step-son (who I never see) :
"Fuck you bitch"
"Your a big cow"
"Suck a cock"
"I fucking hate you, you fucking bitch"
And according to my husband, SS had a huge meltdown , and screamed out a huge tirade, saying "I hate you Dad!!!! You put Julia first. You never pay enough child support. It's not good enough that you are not taking me overseas with you"
So.... My response to all that is as follows:
1. My husband does NOT put me first
2. He most certainly DOES pay more than enough child support
3. We never got taken overseas when we were kids, and neither will SS
4. I have sent the ex-wife an email, saying that her son is never welcome to come to our house again.