What is the limit?
I've been wondering for a long time what someone has to do for their family to be comfortable with finally writing them off for good. In DHs family there are ex cons, drug dealers, those who have lied to, stolen from and threatened to kill family members, do drugs and drink with young kids and least of all treat the entire family like garbage until they need something, yet they are still embraced and everyone blows it off as "That's just "SS, SD, SIL, MIL, BIL, SIL", (enter your choice here). My bios wouldn't dare even come close to any of the things on that list except maybe lying every once in a while but not on the scale these others have done. But what is the limit ? Not to mention how everyone on this sight seems to be treated poorly by a step or in law, what has to happen for DH and the rest of the clan to say its enough? Why do I feel like the crazy one watching all of this and wondering why forgiveness is given over and over for disposable acts? I know some will say blood is blood but I'm one of those that believes that family doesn't give you the right to be an a**hole and if your not a good person you're not my family, it's plain and simple for me but I know maybe heartless for others but life is too short to be surrounded by jerks and be forced to forgive when you feel strongly about things, they aren't any more important than anyone else so why are they allowed to trample all over everyone all the time? What's your limit?