DH allowing adult SS to live with us while doing drugs
I have two girls that I’m mother to who are 7 and 9. They live with us full time other than three weekends a month they spend with their father. My DH has a son who is 19 who lived with us since finishing high school and was always a good, straight arrow of a kid, until he got involved with a rough girl from a rough background. He started getting fired from jobs, sitting at home, lying constantly about any and everything and recently wrecked our brand new car. He also started we suspected doing marijuana and tonight he finally admitted that he and this girl are doing drugs together. None the less, DH is still going to let him live here, drive our car, and bring the girl around. He claims he is going to make him stop doing drugs by drug testing him and the girl (they are 19) and making him move out if they fail. Kids are smart enough to figure out how to pass those things.
I am livid, for the sake of my own children. I don’t want druggies around my children. If there are drugs found in this house, I could lose custody of my children. Furthermore, DH has a 13 year old son by a different mother. My girls’ father and the boy’s mother would be on me in a second. My knee jerk reaction is if he doesn’t want to stay clean and wants to run around with rough people, he needs to do it in his own apartment where he pays his own bills and drives his own vehicle. Also, rough people are followed by rough people. What’s going to happen when he angers her or she slights a drug dealer or something and these rough people come looking for her here? I feel like DH is willing to risk the security of everyone else in our family for the sake of trying to control his son’s choice to do illegal drugs.