He wants me to put all four of his kids on my health insurance
DH and I married three months ago. I have two daughters 7 and 9 that live with us full time. He has a daughter who is 19 and sons who are 19, 17, and 13.
He was eligible for Medicaid before we got married because I have a teaching job. Now that we aren’t eligible, he wants me to put all the kids on my health insurance. It will be $600 a month before all of the out of pocket expenses for six kids that we have to just hope that the birth mothers will pay half of.
I get that all we make goes into a common pot. And he is obligated through his divorce agreement to provide health insurance. He can’t because his work doesn’t offer it. It’s just frustrating... he has two ex-wives. One of them is married to a doctor and stays home. The other one lives with her parents and parties. The kids don’t live with us full-time and the daughter won’t have anything to do with us. I know this doesn’t matter. But I’m resentful in some ways because I feel I will be literally working to cover everyone’s health care costs. And DH didn’t ask me to do this, he flat told me I was going to and has been telling me how selfish, disrespectful, unloving, et cetera that I am for being less than completely comfortable with this whole thing. I feel like I am basically working to pay his child support. Like...no court would order me to do this. He made sure to tell me just how excited the birth mothers were that I am going to be doing this. Of course they are.
I don’t know. It’s just overwhelming.