I know I'm not alone! - (Meant this as a blog not a new forum)
Hello everyone. I'm new here and finding it helpful and theraputic. This is my first blog, though I've commented on other posts. I recently remarried a man I knew 30 years ago. We are both divorced, his newer than mine, and have a child each...I have a 22 year old son and he has a 14 year old daughter. He and my son get along great. His daughter would rather he be single and doesn't speak to me. She did when we first started dating, was friendly, polite... Then we got engaged and it all changed.
It was all very fast, we had only been dating for a few months when he asked me to marry him. I knew on the first date, after 30 years, that he was going to be in my life! Like I said, it was fast. And his exwife made sure to voice her opinion about it, and everything else, from the get go. She was the one who asked for the divorce. They had been living in the same house but seperate lives for 10 plus years. People I know who are friends with my husband say it wasn't a good marriage. But I digress. She, too, had someone new and lied to the daughter telling her he was just a friend and NOT living in their house. But he wasn't just a friend and was living in the basement.
It's been a roller coaster and I want to get off. I knew there would be challanges but not like this. Not someone telling her child not to care or like me or her father becasue after all "he doesn't care about you anymore." "You don't come first." "If he cared about your feelings he wouldn't be getting married." "Time with him should just be the two of you." These are texts I've seen and I could go on and on. I've tried everything I can think of to get along with SD but she ignores me in my own house. She's rude and disrespectful, which is partly the age (I teach middle school...lol), and speaks to her father in that manner. He was the stay at home parent and they were together 24/7 and very close. I get it, she's had A LOT of changes and feels like I took something from her. And as. middle school reading specialist this is my demegrophic. But this is a different animal all together and I have no idea what to try next.