FMIL has been watching FSD7 almost all summer while FDH is at work, and also while BM is at "work" (FSD7 says "Mommy sells medicine to people." That's another battle). FMIL likes to play the game where she takes on all these extra responsibilities, i.e. agreeing to help BM on BM's parenting time, planning trips for herself and FSD7, and then turns around and complains that my FDH is not doing enough for his daughter, and is not around enough. She loves reporting all the "good things she's doing" to all the family members, and throw FDH under the bus.
Her latest thing was to agree to switch weekends moving forward with BM, without consulting anyone, because FDH "hasn't been involved in her life recently." She has completely overstepped her role. Every weekend until November is booked up for us on what I thought were non-skid weekends. Weddings, planned vacations, family events, etc. that are not kid friendly events, nor were they planned/paid for for kids. Not only that, but the weekends after Thanksgiving and Christmas were supposed to be skid-free this year, also.
Just to clarify, FSD7 has been on summer vacation for 8 weeks now. She spent two weeks at camp, her two weeks designated each summer to BM. Then she spent the two weeks designated to FDH with FMIL in Arizona and away at a church camp thing, plus an extra week because the Arizona trip went long. In between those times, FSD7 has been sick and stayed at BM's for a few days. So in 8 weeks, FDH has probably seen his daughter 3-4 times, but this was not his fault, nor his desire.
So now I'm wondering if FDH is going to put his foot down and say he already has plans, if our plans are going to be cancelled, or if he just won't see his daughter on any weekend until November. I guess we'll find out, but regardless it's annoying. FDH is also frustrated, but what he is going to do about it is up in the air.