Probably TMI, I apologize in advance! Just venting...
So I've been battling abnormal cells on my cervix for years. I've defied the odds and the cells seem to survive multiple procedures, defied the odds of clearing up on their own, and defied the odds of progressing into a higher and higher grade of pre-cancer. I realize HPV causes this, it's an STD, but most sexually active invidivuals have it, and it goes away for most people. I keep having to pay for the sins of my past, I know this is my fault.
However, I was told I'd have to have a more invasive procedure that they don't particularly like doing in women my age (30) because it is more likely to cause issues with fertility and labor and all that. But I have to do it, the other procedure has failed, twice now. I'm frustrated, tired, scared, and it's not like I WANT to be going through this. This is not a long-recovery surgery, but I do have to be put under and it's been suggested I have someone around for the first couple of days just to help and make sure I'm ok. I will be on narcotics, and anesthesia is rough for me.
Just so happens their next and only available surgery date within the next few months is October 31, Halloween. DH has SD7 this year on Halloween per court order, and is basically demanding I push my surgery date back until Late November/Early December to accommodate Halloween. Really? Halloween is literally the least important holiday, in my opinion, and all the kid cares about is getting dressed up and getting candy. I certainly don't think this justifies pushing back a procedure, time that could ultimately lead to further spreading of the bad cells leading to more cervical tissue needing to be removed, and closer and closer to cancer (although they do say it takes 10-15 years normally for this to progress to full blown cancer, I've defied a lot of odds and statistics already so who knows).
Yes, my father could take care of me, but it'd be nice to know that the man I plan to make my life partner would be there for me no matter what. I wouldn't ask him to postpone health related issues with his daughter for any reason. It's not fair to ask that of me.