So Freakin' Stressed about Hearing and Keeps Getting Worse
DH got the notice to from BM's attorney that's been filed at the courthouse to modify custody and the request for an expedited hearing today. BM is claiming to have primary custody in the school year and that she and DH have 50/50 custody per the court order that was never implemented because BM never moved 2.5 years ago. We asked our attorney about that order many months before this current issue came up and she said that order was completely irrelevant because the move necessary to implement it never occurred and BM would've had to go through what she's doing now in order to move anyway. Since that time, DH has actually had kids more than BM slightly and he's constantly giving her makeup days to keep it as close to 50/50 as possible. I don't know how she's getting away with stating that she has primary custody but I hope she gets nailed for perjury (yet, I doubt she will somehow).
I got a call from a mom of a friend of SD saying that she saw BM picking up twins from their summer day camp and that BM got upset with SS, grabbed him by the back of the neck, and started hitting him. I guess SS was pretty upset and was crying a lot. I told DH about this call and he asked BM if everything was all right. BM is angry at DH for even asking her about it and that DH won't tell her who called. She even made SS7 call DH to tell him that nothing happened to him (but SS also says BM pulled him around by the back of his shirt). Before asking about child protective services or anything like that, we've never had reason to believe BM has been abusive and neither of us has ever received a call like this. DH decided he would ask BM and let the attorney know about the call. We've not heard back directly from our attorney, just the paralegal who says that she'll have the attorney call us soon.
DH is having troubling chest pains that now needs to be addressed by a doctor.
Oh yeah, and we're about to close on our house.
I am so stressed out I can't think clearly, sleep well, and I'm surprised I'm not having chest pains. This needs to end quickly.
this is serious and needs to
this is serious and needs to be addressed. the safety of a child is at stake. you are morally bound to do something.
call authorities before it gets worse.
This is serious and you have
This is serious and you have a witness outside of the interested parties. Call child services on her ass asap
Your phone caller didn't
Your phone caller didn't happen to video what she witnessed , did she?
While likely not CPS worthy, it would make a strong statement in court in just how well BM 'copes' with her children. And to think she's suggesting to move away and have them fulltime?
Funny how there are always
Funny how there are always claims of abuse popping up right around a custody hearing. Unless there is evidence (video, bruises, testimony from the "mom friend of SD," etc...) you're going to look like an @$$ for even bringing it up in court. The fact that you and DH think it's serious but took no action reflects pretty badly on you.
The person that called me had
The person that called me had no knowledge that there's a custody issue at all. We heard back from the attorney about it and the attorney thinks DH handled it appropriately and asked that we request the person who saw the incident provide it to us in writing and she will probably have her testify in court as a non-interested party witnessing how BM reacts to stress and treats the twins. We wouldn't be bringing this up in court unless it was somehow documented and our attorney thought it would help DH's case.