SD Failing and Wants to Move Home
For those of you who have followed my background, it is not altogether surprising that SD18 is has performed poorly in her summer program, and may not be asked to return for the fall semester.
She is now saying that she can live at home (i.e. Me and DH), and she can go to community college. Oh, and she'll need a car (insert eye roll).
I am a ball of stress. These past few weeks with her out of the house have been calm. DH and I have been getting along far better. He's been focused on treating me like a wife and spending quality time with our kids, including SS14. DH has also taken some of the concerns I've had about discipline with SS14 to heart, and we are now on the same page (re: drinking underage, house chores, attitude). The difference is like night and day. I don't understand why DH can't behave this way when SD is around, but it's our reality. We are also back in couple's therapy.
I knew SD would be back for vacations/breaks. But having her back full time... I don't think I can live like that. She will effectively assert herself as the mother and wife of the home, and I will lose my mind.
I hate to say it, but if she moves back in, despite my concerns, I will need to seprate from DH.
I could use some suggestions as to how to phrase this to DH. How do I tell him that I don't want his first born moving into our home?