SS14 and Underage Drinking
So my gem of a DH (sarcasm) allowed my SS14 to drink while family was in town at SD18's high school graduation. They were playing beer pong and flip cup. Not only did SS14 have beer, he also had vodka, in the same evening. My DH failed to appropriately monitor SS14, and I'm not clear as to why he felt the need to bring SS into that situation. I was home and available to stay with SS, along with our young LOs. He could have met up with friends his own age, under parental supervision.
To say that I am livid with DH is an understatement. I was fuming when I found out. IMO, there is absolutely NO reason that a 14 year old needs to be drinking alcohol, nor does his PARENT need to be providing it. The long story short in case you don't know the background, is that my DH says one thing, but in reality, is a lax parent who is afraid of losing his kids, and therefore lets them get away with a lot. As a result, my SD18 is a spoiled, entitled young woman, with no work ethic, and little empathy for anyone but herself. I had hopes for my SS14, who is a little more well balanced, and who I had more influence over since I came into his life younger.
What scares me the most now is that I will end up with a kid, who is just entering high school, who thinks its ok to drink, not just because his friends are doing it, but because his Dad is right there drinking with him and providing the alcohol. I do NOT want SS's friends thinking that our house is the party house, that DH will supply booze, and that this is all "normal" for high school.
My question: Am I being naive? Is this what ALL teens do now? I didn't as a teen because my parents would have throttled me. Same with my siblings. They let us try sips of things when we were older - around 17/18 - before we went to college. In college, I was careful, drank a little, but infrequently. My feeling is that 14 is wayyy too young, brains are not even close to being fully formed, lack of maturity cannot handle alcohol, and teens that age are already doing dumb stuff. No need to add a mind altering substance.
We have some beer at home, and some hard alcohol. I was considering chucking all of it... or refilling the bottles with water. What say you stepparents?