My husband is almost 40 and he's pretty broke financially because of his kids and divorce yet he's throwing his mother a 70th birthday party at a private event space for over 50 people which is going to cost hundreds of dollars. His sister (who is 40 and lives at home with their mom, never married and no kids) is helping him with the costs. Did I mention my husband also works for the company his mother is a director at and they talk on the phone nearly a dozen times a day? Do you think it is really necesaary to throw your mother a party when you are broke? Why not take her to dinner or a spa day? He's not going on vacation with me this summer to the caribbean to my best friends wedding because he says he doesnt have the money yet he has money to throw his mother a birthday party thats going to cost hundreds of dollars? He also took his kids on a weekend trip out of town for their spring break where he spent hundreds on that as well. Do you think this is neceassry?