Is it reasonable to expect this from a stepmother to your kids/wife?
You expect her to move in with you (even though it is a lot further from her workplace and she works a lot) because your kids don't want to change schools. She understands this and sacrifices this. You expect her to sell her place, move in with you, do the extra driving to and from work each day, contribute evenly to your bills(50/50) including the mortgage, you expect her to rarely go out and have a social life and to always want to do everything you and your kids instead and to always be happy and wanting to play with your kids, babysit your kids, cook and clean for your kids, attend your kids activities, and be happy about doing so, etc. You also expect her to sacrifice sleep because your kids are loud each morning and do not listen when you tell them to be quiet. You also expect her to say nothing when your kids are being rude and disrespectful for her to just think it's kids just being kids and that they are just being funny. Is this reasonable? You expect her to only take vacations with you and your kids and for her to help you with them, to only do activites they want to do and to be happy about doing them and enjoy doing them even though your kids are unappreciative. She has to pay her own way on these trip as well and contribute to covering your kids meals and expenses as well. Is this reasonable?