Do you ever feel like a Step parent to your siblings, nieces/nephews?
I know I do. I could see the BS a million miles away with my older sisters life and I’d do my best to steer her in the right direction, oftentimes, tough love. She didn’t like what I’d have to say and my mom is still a Disney mom when it comes to her. And I was like the evil step parent who has always had good intentions, like most steps do, but I gently call it how I see it. I’m a very rational person and my sister always has her head in the clouds, and then when shit hits the ceiling, she always has excuses and blames everyone else.
She failed a biiig test at work in May, a test that she had 6 months to prepare for. If she doesn’t pass within a year and a total of 3 attempts, she’s canned. Before she took it the first time, I used to get on her about STUDYING. Get off fucking Facebook and study. And I offered to help her study, I even bought her supplies. Buttt ohhh I was being too mean and making her nervous and I don’t know what I’m talking about, how she is studying her ass off. Ok. She bombed it bigtime. After listening to her excuses, she went on to say that she just randomly answered 30 of the 120 questions because she didn’t study anything from that section of the test. I called her out on it and told her I do not feel bad for her, she had 6 months to prepare and she didn’t even look at a section that she knew would be 1/4 of the test? Baffling. But oh I was mean, and she told my mom not to tell me when she was going to retake it. Once again, I offered my help.
I then found out she made the decision herself to retake it 5 weeks after bombing it. I told her my offer still stands to help her, but, nooo, “she’s got this.” I then notice she’s active on messenger anytime I log in, liking people posts, constantly on Instagram, going out of town for her sons sports on weekends instead of letting daddy go by himself. I said something to my mom, mon told me i don’t know how it is since I don’t have kids. Ok. I disengaged at that point.
Found out today was her retake date. She bombed it. Mom is upset, she’s bawling. And I’m over here all disengaged.
I also used to encourage her to give her dog up for adoption since her son is not responsible with taking care of him. He likes to cuddle and play with him, but taking him for walks? No. Brushing him? No. This dog was bought only under that agreement that since he wanted a dog, he would have to care for him, not my sister. Of course I was the bitch for even suggesting that it go to a more responsible family, and she went on about how much her son loves the dog and would be devastated if she took him away. I disengaged. I found out that last night my lovely nephew let him out without a leash and the dog chased after their neighbors 18 month old and almost bit her. The child’s parents screamed at my sister and nephew when they chased after him and they said they were calling her landlord about the matter. Now my sister is afraid of getting kicked out of her new townhouse because having a dog on a leash was part of the rental agreement. My mom agreed to keep the dog while they house hunt this year. My mom with new carpet in her house. I said nothing about it, but I was thinking about how my nephew needs to have that dog snatched away from his irresponsible ass and I kinda hope they are evicted. All I said was, “mom, I hope you advise her that it would be very unwise to buy a house until she passes that test” and my mom looked at me and put her head down.