So, as if summer vacation w the skid isn’t enough, my FMIL has taken it upon herself to start stuff Bc I get along with her estranged husband. Long story, but 14 years ago he started fooling around with the bookkeeper, he ended up actually dating her for 14 years and never divorced FMIL. Now father and bookkeeper split and FMIL has some new found hope her husband will come back to her (very religious woman), and since that’s not happening she’s more miserable than ever.
If FDH doesn’t answer her complaining, negative, passive aggressive texts, she’ll text me. It’s annoying and rude. I wasn’t around 14 years ago when it all happened, FDHs father has been nothing but kind, generous, and welcoming to me. I’ve also been overly nice and tried to get along well with FMIL, despite her controlling attitude and how she totally hijacked Christmas. So this is kindve blind siding me that all of the sudden I’m in the middle of this.
Thursday night I went over to her house for dinner and helped in the yard with FDH. When I went to say goodbye to her she absolutely chewed into me about how I “could be friends with a man who has been so awful to her.” I replied, “I’m not choosing sides, I like you both.” This sent her into more of a tailspin. We left, and I was upset. I told FDH that next time I see her I expect an apology.
well, today FDH gets a text from her very passive aggressive, “thought you were going to come by today and help me in the yard, guess you don’t care about your mother. Your current girlfriend made it clear that her loyalty is divided, I’m guessing the same for you?” I’m annoyed that 1. I’m being thrown in the middle of this 2. The CURRENT girlfriend comment, I’m his future wife, not the current gf like there’s going to be a next one and 3. He should have immediately jumped down her throat to defend me.
Tips for dealing with FMIL that’s fully gone off her rocker??