on being flexible ..
DH and BM agreed in the parenting agreement to be flexible with each other in regards to family visiting from out of town, etc. Meaning, if one of them have family visiting (both are transplants with most family several hundreds of miles away).
They didn't really define "flexible" though. When DH's parents visit (always scheduled on our time to avoid working out a compromise with BM), he lets her know in advance. He ONLY does this to avoid her scheduling her family visits on the same times.
When BM does it? We get 3-4 days notice.
Now, DH generally says no if we can't make a switch work. But it never fails that BM throws a temper tantrum about how he's not being flexible and thinking of the kids' best interest.
Most recently, this upcoming weekend is BM's weekend. The next is DH's. DH made plans weeks ago to fly out west to visit his aunt and cousins, with the assumption this was BM's weekends and skids wouldn't be with us. Next weekend my family is having their annual summer get-together. This was specifically scheduled to make sure skids could attend.
BM sent an email this morning asking to switch weekends because she has to work this weekend and she has "visitors" coming next weekend.
DH will say no. He won't even be here this weekend. Because of vacation schedules during the month of August, there is not another weekend in the foreseeable future to switch. She will throw a temper tantrum.
They see the parenting coordinator on Wednesday, where I'm sure she'll show up with all her "proof" that DH is unreasonable and doesn't allow skids to see her family. Which really just isn't true. DH let BM pick skids up early this past Friday because her aunt was visiting.
And let's not forget that BM has withheld visitation when she was living out of state because DH didn't give her at least 30 days notice of his plans to come see the skids (he gave 28 days). But that's totally acceptable. :sick:
DH will do the right thing, I'm just so sick of it always being something, ya know?