BM-speak - “co-parenting” = do whatever I demand
If you have read any of my other blogs, you know that BM regularly tries to get out of dropping skids off on visition weekends (which is her one obligation under the CO). Now that she has a boyfriend (soon to be husband #3?), she has doubled-down on getting out of this requirement.
Yesterday, she texts DH and says, "can we switch pick up and drop off this weekend?" DH replies, "I can't, but it's fine if you drop them off later." This should address BM's issue because she always claims she can't get out of work on time to get skids to our house by 6pm.
Then BM sends the following text, "I should have known that you wouldn't be flexible. Every time you ask me for anything, I drop everything to accommodate you but you never do the same for me!"
No response from DH, so she sends the following, "it just makes me so sad for our children that we can't be civil and co-parent together. They deserve better."
Still no response from DH, "Let me know if you have a change of heart and decide to be flexible. I have work and other commitments that mean I can't get them to your house on time and the person I hired to drive them is unavailable this week."
Still no response from DH, "well, I guess I'll just have to switch weekends."
Still no response, "I can drop them off on Thursday evening, Friday morning, or Saturday morning. If you can't pick them up or do that then I'll have to switch weekends."
Still no response from DH, "a response would be nice!"
Hours later DH replies, "As I've said before, I have commitments too and can't pick them up on Friday, so I would like to stick to our agreement. If you absolutely can't bring them to my house any time on Friday evening, then just this weekend, you can bring them on Saturday morning."
As of today, no response from BM.
As an aside, when DH changed jobs a few years ago and couldn't make the 1:15pm pick up time he foolishly agreed to at the time of the divorce and asked DH if he could move the pickup time later she threatened to take him to court. She also refused to pick the kids up on Sunday, saying it was "unfair" even though the CO at the time stipulated that "the receiving parent provides transportation", and then told DH he "set a precedent" by driving both ways and her lawyer told her she could ignore the CO, which is why the last mediation stipulated that she do Friday drop off, which she agreed to. Also, this summer she scheduled her vacation over one of DH's weekends and didn't tell him or offer make-up time and he didn't make a stink about it, so I think that's her "flexibility" quota for the summer. Also, whenever DH asks to switch weekends, she either tells him she doesn't owe him anything or tells him he'll owe her money if he wants to switch.
I'm so sick of the manipulative BS...cannot wait until Skids stop visiting and then become adults, so DH can block her entirely.