Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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I noticed this too when I
I noticed this too when I was looking online to help out the fiance. It's pretty sad.
To every thing there is a season.
Three years
of crap and very little help out there. DH has custody too and we have found very limited resources. That is why we decided to start our own non profit organization. If you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself! It is still in th early stages, and we have met with numerous supporters. The paperwork is being drawn up and we have been told it will take six months to a year. The church we attend gets national exposure and our pastor is getting ready to take his sermons onto international tv. He is working with us as well to try and get something started.
I just got flat out fed up with hitting a dead end everytime. Now, DH and I have gathered quite a bit of information and resources. We handled our case pro se for awhile and became pretty educated. If you have a situation and would like me to see what resources I can find, let me know.
We actualy did get a good deal if information from Pat Chancellor who heads up DADS in New Mexico (but that is where our case is). They have a national website that will link you to whoever represents your state. I am not sure if all the states are as helpful, but he was an asset to us at several stages.
www.dadsdivorce.com
I have done extensive research on the statistics of custodial fathers and just recently was given the opportunity to speak on the topic at a local forum at the University here. I used the stories of several people here. The statistics are alarming. Here are a few that I discovered:
89.5% of non custodial fathers are currently paying their ordered support. Yet, only 24.6% of non custodial mothers are paying their support.
40% of mothers reported that they have in fact withheld visitation in order to punish the ex spouse
Approximately 6.5 million children in the United States are the result of divorced families. Of those 6.5 million kids, only 740,000 are living with their fathers.
Take a look at this Youtube video that someone sent me when we first set up the Campaign for Madi. It is a real tear jerker!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWow42TCwzg
As a biologcal mom, I never would have imagined that I would be so supportive of father's rights over mothers. But when I became a stepmom and started witnessing the injustice that DH suffered, I knew I had to take a stand. Funny thing is, the AG has even destroyed my ex and I want to stand up for him too! Men need someone to help them in this system. It sucks!
"I didn't lose my mind, I sold it on ebay."
Good for you and thank you!!
I have also noticed this, although in our case we have 50/50 custody...but ALL the info online assumes that the mom has full custody. Last week my DH went out of town on business...and it was his 'kid' week. That left me working my demanding FT job with a 45 minute commute, and caring for my two kids (5 and
and his two kids (8 and 11). It WORE me out! And their BM was home (lives 2 miles from us), but just didn't want to watch them...she had partying to do! I would NEVER do that to my kids! I would take them in a heartbeat, even if it wasn't my 'week'!!! I would love to get full custody and not have to deal with her selfishness...poor SD felt awful knowing her mom was 'around' but chose not to be with her... 
Lawyers, Internet, phone calls
It's all about the moms. I will be checking out that website.
silly girl
the court system doesnt belive there are men out there who actually WANT to see and raise their kids, let alone have custody of them! its like in the Harry Potter movies when the minister refused to believe Voldemort was back even though Harry said do...if that were really the case, then the courts wouldnt be able to paint the picture of all the poor single moms who works their butts off and get NO help from the deadbeat dads who, in their minds, left them to shack up w and have "new" families w gals like us.
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
Why?
Why do custodial BM's get all this free support in enforcing dads to pay CS, but non-custodial dads have ZERO free help in enforcing visitation orders?
♥ ANNE 8102 ♥