New to this.....
I am older than my SO and my 3 kids are grown. 1 is on her own and 2 live with me still - one working and trying to save for her own place and the other finishing last semester at college. I've been separated, then divorced from their dad since my youngest was one. Did not date for 19 years cause I didn't want the drama of another man / kids in my life while raising mine. Youngest went off to college 4 yrs ago and I started to date then. My SO has 2 daughters 15 & 17. He also has a son in another state. I tried not to get serious with him cause I didn't want to have anything to do with raising any more kids. Told him that so many time and still he pursued. We have been living together for a year and saw his girls sometimes. The BM is a sociopath - she wouldn't answer calls if she was mad, wouldn't let him see his girls, not even on father's day or birthday, etc. He finally took her to court just a few months ago to modify custody order. During the hearings, we got them EVERY weekend. Now that the trial is done, I just found out its every other WEEK during the summers and once school starts it will be every other weekend.
We just completed the one week visit. The girls are nice kids, but make bad choices & they're very immature. I do not want them alone in my house while we're working (we're out of the house about 10 hrs per day). I know she will want to have friends over and biggest issue is that I bet the BM will come over just so she can snoop around my house. She's a hustler among other things.
Am I wrong for not wanting them to spend a week at a time in my home when we're not there? Plus we really don't have room - they're sleeping in the living room.