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Tiger7's picture

Hi all.  I last posted April 2019. Oldest SD is now 21 with 2 kids (1 and almost 3). She is actually doing better but is still very immature. She is very emotionally needy with her dad. They talk/text throughout the day....EVERY day. I still disengage when I need to.  Holidays are coming and I'm starting to feel anxious abt some things so I thought I'd get back on this forum. There's so much support here which was very helpful before and I appreciate you all. Will leave it at that for now.  Thx in advance for the much needed advice and support I know I'll need.


Merry's picture

Holidays are the WORST for me. SD and DH have a constant call-text relationship too. And I'm sorry to tell you that she's 40+ so it doesn't necessarily get better as they get older. I'm not sure she's that emotionally needy but she does have a need to KNOW and CONTROL all things. And DH loves the attention. It's a weird kind of codependency I guess.

We will be traveling to see his kids and mine over the holidays. Anxiety is ramping up for me too.

step-out's picture

I'm with you! The approaching holidays stresses me out. It's just going to be a "show" of dysfunction . I don't have anyone there from my side of the family, so it feels very lonely and anxiety-ridden. 

Birchclimber's picture

Ditto!  If we are out of the dog house by then, we will be traveling to visit with the Skids and SGKs too.  I am already getting that queasy feeling just thinking about it. I've come to loathe the Holidays....

SteppedOut's picture

You will be out of the dog house long enough to bring gifts...then back in you go! 

JRI's picture

Holidays ramp up all the dysfunction, neediness, anxiety and craziness of steplife.  It will suddenly be better on Dec. 26, I keep telling myself.

CLove's picture

Post when you need to  - we are definitely hear.

Holidays are always tough, especially since my SD22 Feral Forger has been ramping up with her toxic sludge.