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Submitted by Tiger7 on Wed, 10/03/2018 - 5:59pm

I had a whirlwind summer.  Laid off one job, took July off, started new job Aug 1st and got married Aug 26th. I love, love, love my husband but sad to say his 2 daughters are still causing angst.  The 18 yr old is pregnant and due in Feb. Bf cheats on her, keeps reinfecting her with STDs (she doesn't know we know that part), she has no job, is on welfare, bf is a bum, etc.  She is clearly not equipped to be a mom. She needs help...not just therapy but a life coach.  I see lots of issues coming down the road.   Just needed to unload that tonight.  Thx

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Submitted by thebrokenrecord... on Wed, 10/03/2018 - 11:09pm

Wow, hopefully your SD smartens up-This may happen when the Baby comes.
My worse fear is that one of the skids will knock up or get knocked up and we'll have to raise the baby(not that a baby is horrible)...

I hope things get better for you...and yes, i too have skids with issues that are a direct result of alienation and also SO not always being there, but how could he with the nosey B for a BM...I dont think the skids will ever get better until they want to and learn differently.

I hope your wedding was magical.

Take care and try to have fun, if you can...dont let them derail your lives...as i have told my SO, "just because your kids f-up there lives doesnt mean they can ruin mine and my kids"...they have a mother, go to her!

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Thu, 10/04/2018 - 9:47am

Just cause they  f**ked up theirs....its so true.  My kids are grown so i want to enjoy life with my new husband.   DH is on the same page but we also acknowledge that his are younger and he needs to be there for them.  He did tell SD18 to not even think abt using this baby to blackmail....you know...if u dont help me you wont see your grandchild.  He told her he'll help her out when and if he chooses since she made this choice to purposely get pregnant.   We'll  see.  He knows how i feel

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 10/04/2018 - 8:18am

Congratulations on your marriage!!! I hope it was a perfect wedding Smile

As for SD... I wonder if she realized how much harm those STD's can cause the baby? You would think her OB would be on her butt about that stuff! Is SD living with you? Do you have any way of keeping BF out of your home?

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Thu, 10/04/2018 - 9:37am

Everyone had a great time...the only annoyance was pregnant SD asking people to take her to McDonald's cause she couldnt eat the food at the reception (prime rib, chicken, potatoes).  No one would do it, but her grandmother on BM's side brought some to her later that night when she picked up SD16.  SD18 does not live with us....i told DH before that i will not ever allow that. She comes over to visit a few times a month and thats plenty for me.