My SD 13 and SS almost 9 are here half the time and I find the dynamics so frustrating. They never leave the house without their mom. I dont usually go with them so I get some time to myself. I often feel like I am single half the time. SD is in her room on her phone but SS is on the coach all day every day unless his mom takes him out, usually to the store. They are not that badly behaved but so lazy and ask for things wayyyyy too much and it really bothers me. Bed time still takes an hour for SS and 30 for SD, the same as it did 4 years ago. My wife is materialistic and I am not and it haa been passed to her kids. She convinced me to buy a house last year at the worst possible time. We had a townhouse with a 300 k mirtgage and now have a house with a 900 k mortgage. We are just getting by but we were so much better off before. Part of the reason to buy the hoise was that the kids could play outside but they NEVER do. It was a massive waste of money and I worry about money all the time for a house that has made 0 difference to the dynamic. I worry that I will never forgive my wife and my marriage will fail. I am totally checked out when the kids are here and always try and find ways to be around them as little as possible.