First time post.....I do not want to go on vacation with my stepsons (ages 16 and 18) this summer which is a planned car trip through several states including my childhood hometowns, to visit my dad (who I haven't seen in a few years) and also to the stepsons' grandmothers house, who will have been here visiting US for about a month in just the two weeks prior to our trip (meaning they would have spent a lot of time with her and they aren't particularly close. When she lived here they saw her aboutb1x a month). At any rate I visioned a nice couples trip with my spouse and I, which in 7 years of marriage would be a first for us. We have had a few one-night camping trips but never a vacation alone. We have 5 step kids total - 3 from me; two from my spouse. My kids engage "normally" with my spouse. Talk, treat them just like a normal person. Social etc. The stepsons on my spouses side however hardly talk to me. One word responses. Haven't actually had a conversation beyond what's for dinner in god knows how long. We have had family vacations in the past which were pleasant but as soon as we are home it's back to zero relationship. So I am finally to the point of just want to go without them and yet here I am finding out "they want to go" which of course seems like I can't say no to a kid who says he wants to go. But my god I wish they didn't. And you feel bad for even thinking it.