DH is struggling with that single dad life
So, I'm on a work trip that is essentially just a trip to CA with no real business reason, and DH calls me twice today. Once to chat, and the second time because he is losing his shit about SD.
Skids are with us for 9 days because of DH's insistence to do a "switch" with right of first refusal when Crazy took the kids while we were on a trip. So this is our makeup week, which is longer than usual. Which I'm gone for most of. Today apparently DH and SD13 got into a shouting match because SD claims her mom does everything for her, while we do nothing. No matter what DH said, SD insisted Crazy does it all. DH "doesn't even know what meds SD takes". DH lost his shit on her and said oh really, I've been setting your meds out for you for over a week now! SD said Crazy does all of her medical appts. DH pointed out how He was the one who set up her Ortho appts and took her to the Orthodontist for the first few months. Crazy didn't even know her Orthodontist's name until 6 months ago, when she messaged DH to ask for it (SD has been going for a year now). SD is so brainwashed there is no getting her to listen. DH lost it and told her her mom is a terrible human (true, but I pointed out how we are trying to be better than Crazy and not talk crap about the other parent to SD).
DH said SS17 also came to him to address SD's behavior- SS took SD to his gf's soccer game on Tue and SD was just mean to SS- not in a sarcastic sibling way. Saying he's ugly, has a big nose, etc. This is exactly how Crazy is- putting everyone else down. It's gross that she's turning into her mom.
This wknd we have plans to go boating with friends and DH said he had hoped SD would have plans, but they got canceled. I asked if we should see if she can come boating (which, isn't ideal, It's more of an adult boating group). DH said, ugh. Idk. We'll see. He just kept saying he doesn't know what to do with her, Then he said he is ready for skids fo go back to Crazy's. Mostly just SD, because she is taxing. He doesn't usually say these things outright, even when I suspect he is thinking them, so he is really at his wits end.
I'm just sitting here thinking, now imagine they aren't your kids, and you didn't want to do this switch in the first place for this very reason...?