And so it begins----picking up BMs slack
For the last 3 weeks, in growing frequency, F has been receiving calls from BM demanding he play chauffeur for SD14. BM is expecting her latest spawn at the end of the month, and with a flurry of dr. appts plus general laziness, no longer has time to take sd to her orthodontist appts, pick her up after school, or take her to her cheerleading events. Even though all of these things happen on days where she has custody, F is expected to pick up her slack. Northernsiren, also the same woman that BM said in a fit that she did not want alone with her child (NO REASON mind you, just to be a b*tch) is also an acceptable chauffeur, and being unemployed, guess who is stuck doing it?
I am soooo pissed ladies, and sick to death of fighting with F about it. I am sitting here typing one handed due to surgery on my dominant hand less than 2 weeks ago. I drive to my dr, that's it b/c it's dangerous, oh and to drive sd too. I have NO problem doing this to help F, or SD, at least when it comes to Dr and after school help ( I refuse to help w/ cheerleading, as I don't think SD should be forced to do it the way she is) but why oh why does it feel like I'm helping the BM? F is appreciative of course, b7ut it really doesn't make that much of a difference, Im still mad as hell.
Perhaps the most maddening thing F believes that after her spawn is born, BM will realize she cant possibly handle a 2 yr old, a new born, and a teenager, so she'll willingly allow sd to live with us, and give up her child support. I'm ready to ring his damned neck, he's stepping in and picking up her slack, so why on earth would she ever capitulate and give him custody? PLUS she's going to need her maid (SD) and constant babysitter even more now.
Last night he informed me that we are now responsible for transporting SD to her thanksgiving day football game for cheerleading, since BM is "too pregnant". So much for us having any plans, perhaps to visit family! Normally we stay home, b/c the following day is when we observe our anniversary, so we try to make it a nice long weekend. But b/c of that, F said we'd do the transporting and were available. UGH. I was not allowed any say in this, or even any reaction. He cut me off and told me not to say anything, he was already mad enough. So where, other than steptalk, am I supposed to express my emotions on this? no where apparently. He told me he wasnt even going to tell me b/c he couldn't deal with me getting pissed. WTF?
So with no other option, I tried to be positive, and told him to call BM and tell her we'll be picking up SD the night before, and the three of us as a FAMILY will be making thanksgiving dinner, which we will enjoy together when the football game is over. Just one more opportunity for SD to see how a NORMAL family does things, and how crazy the BM's insanity really is.
I'm just so annoyed by all this. I KNOW, especially since he's capitulated now, that this is just the tip of the iceburg. I better heal up fast and find a job right away, or reconcile myself and buy a chauffeur cap now!