Oh boy. Or girl. The Follies have reached another high.
Well, my SO finally got his "Happy Fathers Day" call at about 8 p.m. Then the REAL follies began!
SD informs him with giddy glee (I could hear it from across the room) that she is pregnant again. I saw the look on his face (terror) but he recovered quickly and said the perfunctory "Congratulations! What great news..."
Why a look of terror you may ask? Well, because SD has a history of two previous pregnancies which were extremely high-risk and in both cases she needed emergency surgeries to save her life. SD has always known she would be high-risk and is delusional about it, IMO. In addition, she is well aware that some of her health conditions can be passed along to her children.
The first pregnancy resulted in emergency life-saving surgery and a miscarriage. The second resulted in her hospitalization/full bed rest until her own condition became so life threatening the baby was delivered once it was deemed to be viable. The baby did survive after several months in NICU and needed subsequent major surgery later on. Thankfully, the child seems to be physically recovered but it's now evident there are some developmental challenges which may be long-lasting.
These are not "whoops" pregnancies. All three have been done with medical intervention. I am absolutely stunned there are fertility clinics that will facilitate a patient like this.
I can understand the desire to have a family and know that fertility challenges can be heartbreaking for those who want children. After the first baby had recovered from his prematurity/surgery and began to walk, SD/DH adopted another infant. My SO was relieved at that point because he thought she finally recognized how dangerous pregnancy was for her and woke up and realized there were other ways she could grow her family.
Now that child is walking, SD went for medical assistance to get pregnant again.
I honestly don't understand any of this and am so damn glad I am disengaged. I personally think her decision is appalling, selfish and has ZERO empathy or compassion for what she may be putting that innocent child through simply because SHE wants to be pregnant again. If she wanted to, SD has always had the funds to easily pay for a surrogate.
The problem now is that I can already see the cloud over my SO's head. He is undoubtedly going to be worried about this for the rest of the pregnancy. And guess who he THINKS will be the personal whipping post he uses for his own anxiety about SD/her condition over the next months?
Well, it won't be me anymore. That's for damn sure.