Update: SD's baby news
I posted that SD is in her second high-risk pregnancy. High risk for both herself and the baby.
She is a little over 4 months and has already furnished the nursery at home and has a baby registry set up.
We were deeply sadded to learn that she found out the baby has some very serious congenital issues and she and her husband are seeking specialist consults to determine the way forward.
Here's where I don't know what to think: AFTER SD got the serious and troubling diagnosis for the baby, within days SD sent out baby shower invites for almost two months from now. This is not a shower arranged by one of her friends or family - she wrote the invites, she is setting it up for herself, and it's being held at her house. She included information about the baby registry. I would never be able to attend since we live many states away, so she is obviously is looking for a baby gift from me. I don't hear from her at all - not even a card on my birthday. Getting this card from her addressed to me was a shock.
I have to admit I am speechless. I can't imagine what she is thinking - is it possible she is in some mental state of denial? I thought setting up the nursery was a bit much, but others on this site gave me some insight and I came to understand it might have been a case of "positive thinking" on her part and practicality in case she wound up on bedrest.
But how can you have such a serious diagnosis and then days later send out invites to people for a baby shower two months from now?
I honestly wonder if she may have some mental issues. She became pregnant with this baby just about three months after losing the first baby. Maybe she hasn't fully grasped the gravity of the situation?
FWIW, her mother (BM) is a nutcase. At the age of 50+ she announced to SD that she wanted to have another baby and went out and married a guy 25 years her junior just weeks before SD got married. Of course, there ain't no baby coming out of that old oven! I'm wondering if she is projecting on SD somehow.