O/T - The new "normal" for baby planning?
I'll be the first to admit that I am officially old and many societal norms I was used to have flown out the window. So this is truly just a confused observation more than anything else.
Sadly, SD lost a baby last winter early during her 4th month which caused her to be rushed in for emergency surgery. She is a very high-risk pregnancy candidate, so unfortunately this loss was not unexpected. She is now pregnant again and is about 20 weeks. Again, a very high-risk pregnancy for BOTH her and the child. So far all seems to be good - and God willing - this time there will be no problems.
I am primarily disengaged from her but of course my SO is cautiously optimistic about becoming a grandpa. The other day, he showed me a photo SD had sent him and I was surprised to see that she has recently completed the baby's nursery. It is painted, decorated, furnished with new baby furniture, stacks of linens, toys, etc. She has already set up a baby registry and I saw she has more than 150 items on the list, some of which have already been purchased. Everything from additional furniture pieces to nursing bras.
I cannot help but feel a small sense of fear that she is planning a bit too early. Back in the "old" days, we didn't have baby showers (or registries) until later on in the pregnancy.
Maybe this the new norm - having everything set up so early for baby? Of course, she is certainly free to do what she wants to and is comfortable with but IMO this seems too much, too early - especially since she is at such high-risk. Maybe this is all part of the new "Instagram" culture - where everything should be picture perfect and life is always wonderful??