My grieving wife is home. Bravo MIL!
It always seems that my DW's interface with my IL clan is a bit of a double edged sword. Sigh.
My DW is grieving the loss of her cousin. As I have shared periodically, this cousin is the closest relationship my DW has had with her never met deceased before she was born BioDad's family. As such, my DW has been a bit avoidant on some of the facts around this cousin
So, longish story as short as I can make it.... During some of her time with my MIL DW made a comment that "(Deceased Cousin) was the best of us three girls". My MIL with zero delay corrected DW. Fairly sternly apparently. Making it clear that my DW is by far the best of them. Them being my DW and her two cousins via her BIoDad's younger brother. The eldest of the two cousins is the one who just passed. The youngest is a crack head who apparenting is a week from her 6mo sober pin at the rehab halfway house that the deceased cousin/crack head's elder sister got her into.
My DW is fixated on how there will be 200 people at the funeral and how amazing her cousin was and how many people love her, etc....
My MIL is not drinking that Kool-Aid and I for damned sure am not gargling that crap either.
This is the cousin who lied to my DW, "borrowed" $thousands from us, never paid back a penny, and the last time begged my DW to directly pay the deposit (that the cousin promised to pay back) on an apartment so she could get her two young boys away from her drunk assed DH, whaaaaaaaa!
Which ended up being complete bullshit. DW paid the nearly $1K deposit, cousin backed out, got the deposit from the apartment complex and went on a beach vacation with her BFF's.
So, bravo MIL! THank you for setting my incredible bride straight.
DW told me about her mother correcting her on the "best of us" comment. I made sure to make the point that my DW had never stolen from anyone or lied and manipulated to get money so there is not even a discussion to be had about either of her cousins being the "best" of the three progeny of her paternal family.
DW then went on to "but, she will have 200 people at her funeral". I asked how many of them does my wife think know the facts rather than the facade?
I had a pretty quiet wife for a while at dinner tonight.
Then... my thieving rip off artist of a SIL and her DH have some exciting news. This is the SIL who has ripped an aunt off for $Tens of thousnds, defaulted on $80K of school loans on an unfinished degree, and also ripped off my MIL and FIL for $thousands. SIL's DH's company (an employee owned company) was acquired by a competitor. The family that founded and owned the firm for decades has their money out now so the rest of the employee/owners are now getting their buy outs. My DW's BIL will get $400K for his 17 years with the company. Him, I like. My SIL, not so much. It is good that they will get this windfall. They have nearly lost their home 4 different times, have never ending series of financial crisis (due to never ending stupid decions around instant gratification). This will put them on stable ground, at least it has the potential to if they do not do their usual. As DW was telling me this good news, and it is truly good news, she made sure to lead with "she said the first thing they will do is pay back mom, BIL1, and Aunt."
Good to hear. But... I will believe it when I see it. A mental comment. I was able to bite my tongue on that note.
I know, I should be forgiving. But, people who do these kinds of things to people that they claim to love while polishing their halos to bolster their self delusion and build a facade of lies and bullshit trying to present that they are good people... I have no use for. I also have no use for the deluded dipshits who buy their bullshit. Meh.
That they break my incredible bride's heart... I have no foregiveness for them. They chose their actions, they need to own those facts and no one needs to try to hide them.
Bad Rags, bad.
That said, I am very glad she is home, and away from the drama.