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Submitted by Ms_Patricia on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 12:14pm

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DH caught me jumping for joy when I over heard his phone conversation with the ex, saying that he is going to take SD9 home in 1 hour (YAY!!!)

Its been a long week of disrespect towards me, inappropriate behavior, hitting her siblings who are much younger and smaller than her. How does a 9 yr old think it's ok to hit a 2 yr old in the face?!?! 

Im tired of it, I have other stressors going on and I don't need the added stress of dealing with her. Goodbye little girl! 

 

 

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Submitted by WickedStepmother_ on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 1:12pm

My relationship with my step kids aren't that bad but I totally understand how you feel. I feel like a visitor in my own home when they're here. 

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Submitted by Ms_Patricia on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 5:26pm

It's not always like this. She will usually comply and do what she's being asked, but sometimes she has moments of rebellion, attitude and just being mean. I was just over it after this week.

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Submitted by Ms_Patricia on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 5:13pm

I don't allow her to hit my kids. There were consequences and I've put rules in place to keep them within my view when she's here, but even that comes with limitations. Is there anything else that you can suggest?

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Submitted by WickedStepmother_ on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 1:40pm

My relationship with my step kids aren't that bad but I totally understand how you feel. I feel like a visitor in my own home when they're here. 

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 3:02pm

 Why hide it? His kid is awful, and he needs to step up. 

You need to keep laying truth on him and putting the onus on him to do something about it.

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Submitted by tog redux on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 3:28pm

Yep, this. You shouldn't have to secretly jump for joy, you should be able to openly express your concerns and ask for him to parent his kid.

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Submitted by Ms_Patricia on Sat, 10/17/2020 - 5:29pm

Absolutely right! I need to start expressing myself in a calmer way, because he seems to get defensive when I let him know that he's not doing enough to correct the issues. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Sun, 10/18/2020 - 5:43am

Or take action rather than just talking - take your kids out for the day when she comes, and let DH know he and SD will need to stay home because she bullies the kids and disrespects you, and you no longer intend to spend your time putting up with that.  Set up boundaries around you and your kids instead of telling him what he needs to do differently.

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Submitted by REDRUMGT on Sun, 10/18/2020 - 5:22pm

Last night, my DH's two and a half year old shit ALL over our bathroom. He's NEVER done that and he knows better than that. He didn't ask for help, DH walked into the bathroom and all I heard was "WHAT DID YOU DO?! WHAT MADE YOU THINK THIS WAS OKAY?!" and BM Facetimed and asked him why he did it and whatnot and he just cried and said he didn't like daddy and wanted to go home. Well, you did just shit all over our bathroom, we don't like you right now either sooooo. He ended up staying, but had bM agreed to pick him up, I would've celebrated too. Breaks are needed from time to time. 

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 10/19/2020 - 6:35pm

I cannot imagine the hell that my parents would have rained down on me if I had punched my younger brothers (one is 6yrs younger, the other was 8yrs younger) in the face.

I shudder at the thought. 

Your DH should have shredded this violent failed family spawn's butt for that crap.