Husband afraid to communicate
This morning at 6am my husband tells me that he needs to go pick up his daughter at 7am. My response was “today?”. He says yes. I’m confused because he has not told me about this and it’s Tuesday. He is court ordered to have his daughter every other weekend and they alternate holidays, but sometimes they change the days based on whatever (he leaves me out of discussions between him and his ex). So then I asked him why didn’t he tell me ahead of time. Actually, I asked him last week if he would have her for Thanksgiving week and he “danced around” answering me. He said he needed to ask his ex if she was out of school for the week.
My husband swears he told me that he was getting SD today through thanksgiving, and I gave him specific examples of what he said to me instead. He then says he told our son (who is 4 btw).
I’m constantly having to deal with his lack of communication, especially when it comes to SD. I just like to be prepared because I’d like to at least have adequate food in the house before she comes over. Plus I may have plans like I do today. I was expecting our son to be in daycare today, my husband has his doctor appointment (outpatient procedure) and I have one later today and then I wanted to go grocery shopping. So where does that leave SD who is 7 y/o?
I don’t know if I’m making a big deal out of nothing but he does things like this all of the time. It just stresses me out. Last summer, HE planned a vacation for he and I. We planned for my parents to watch our son. He didn’t tell me that he was supposed to have SD that weekend as well and was trying to find someone to watch her last minute. He was wrong for that!
I think the bigger issue is that he doesn’t know how to communicate about important things but it just seems worse when it’s regarding my SD. Anyone else experience this?