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Noticing a shift in YSS

SM12's picture

Since this whole COVID-19 drama and schools being out, I've noticed a change in YSS.   Now I am the first to say I am over him being here so much.  I'm used to him being at school during the day and since there is no school....he is here on visit days.   DH is here during one of the days with YSS but has to work the other day YSS is here.   
Anyway....I have noticed lately that YSS looks like he is constantly disgusted or pouty.   He barely speaks to me (nothing really new) but now when I walk in the room he looks at me with a distasteful look.   I'm sure my insistence on him going home immediately after I am done working on days he goes back to BMs is part of the problem.  He has been wanting to stay here and spend time on his video game. He uses our hiuse as his own personal hang out.  Well he has the same system at BMs so no real excuse to stay here.  
I am also sure BM and her SO are using my insistence on him going home as a way to make me the bad guy.   Again, don't care.  I just am noticing his attitude a lot more toward me.

Sadly we have him this long weekend which always seems to happen...damn!!  And we will be camping so I will be stuck with YSS in a tiny camper while DH works part of the time.   I could insist Yss not come until DH gets off work but that will cause major problems and it isn't worth it.  

Instead I have made plans to do a lot of noisy activities while YSS is trying to sleep until 4 pm.  I think he will decide soon enough he doesn't want to come camping anymore because he would rather sleep. 
DH and BM have raised one lazy ass kid with YSS.  
 

I guess I just need to vent about it.  I am finding the older I get the less I want to deal with children, especially teens.   I maybe if I'm honest I just don't want to deal with skids.   I'm ready to be free from kids and it's going to be a long time before that happens.  I'm second guessing whether I should even be in this marriage due to not wanting kids around.

I think this weekend calls for a lot of cocktails and long walks without DH and yss.
 

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Maxwell09's picture

Just some food for thought....wouldnt you have to deal with him less if you let him sleep until 4pm and veg out on games. I know I could get a lot of stuff done around the house if my skid and bs kept those hours.

SM12's picture

And when we are at home I do that.  At the campe we don't have video games and he would be sleeping in the middle of everything in the camper and basically in the way.   DH and BM both were always very adamant that the SSs can sleep as long as they want which is why DH and BM wouldn't agree to DH taking them

home to BMs in his way to work in the summers.  They didn't think the widdle snucums should have to wake up at 8 am to go home and should sleep as long as they want...::Congrats DH and BM,

you have raised  lazy unmotivated kids!

tog redux's picture

I hope DH will at least make him bathe before you get stuck in a camper with him.

BM here carefully designed the CO to be sure she ALWAYS got every long weekend. Two different kinds of BMs, I guess.