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Sd13 portraying herself as a slut

Stepcop's picture

Ok, it's been a very long time. I posted last week and it disappeared. Sd13 is a roller coaster of sociopath. She has been committed, has to stay medicated, sees a psychiatrist, two counselors, and we had to make the school aware of her behavior because according to the hospital she has the potential when she gets upset or angry to be "a danger to anyone who doesn't agree with her".

Well hell, that's like aloof 8th grade when you are that age. So after these huge blow ups, sd telling me how much she hates me constantly, then turning around and wondering why I'm not interacting with her, threatening to hit me, etc....she was doing better this last week. Calm before the storm I guess.

Last night dh went to tell her goodnight. I hear yelling. Since sd has a habit of making up abuse stories, I video, or at least witness most interactions. I go to her room and ask if everything is ok? She screams, fine, go the hell away. I said, hmmm, the doesn't sound fine, it sounds like everyone is upset. My dh said its not fine. Sd seems to think calling herself and playing like she is a whore is ok. He read me what she texted a boy from school (which she isn't supposed to be talking to unless e is in the room with us). It said something about being the ho all the boys want and that will mess up the girls, she gets drunk every weekend, and that she would a bouy1abd boy2. She would answer what "a" meant in reference to boy1 and boy 2.

I got the quote wrong, I know I did, be ause it said something about another girl, and talking to that girls mother and being pissed off. It was bad and degrading. I couldn't stop myself from saying, "you really don't have any self respect do you? It's not about self confidence, or image, you just really want this to be your reputation. No one said that about you, and this is not the first time you ave said this about yourself. Are you really proud to have people think of you this way? As nothing more than a drunk ho?" She said she feels that way.

My husband lit up. That if she feels that way it's because of her behavior and things she is doing, the reason she isn't allowed to talk to boys alone is because she can't keep the conversation appropriate, etc. he is devastated. Ths kid just does not want to stop. Everything she does is for attention. Lies to boys, threatens suicide (we err on the side of caution but I have found journal entries to the contrary). We don't know wat to do. Meds, doctors, counselors, and the hospital just feed the need for attention. She doesn't stop. We are all just about to lose it with her. This kid s absolutely nuts.

Background: we have just sd full time. Ss10 lives with mom full time and we get him maybe once a month because of sports. Sd has ,ade up so many lies about mom that mom has become a person to hate and blame. Sd gets plenty of attention, more than a 13 year old Gould want from parents.

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Anywho78's picture

It sounds like you most certainly have your hands full & I have no real advice. I just wanted to say that I feel for you...this cannot be an easy situation to be in, at all.

I will say that I would personally take the little snot's phone away to ensure that she is unable to play slut through that avenue. She obviously isn't trust worthy, mental health issues or not.

RedWingsFan's picture

Wow I'm so sorry you're going through that. I also have no advice, just sympathy for you in this situation. I really don't know how I'd handle that.

So sad for you Sad

misSTEP's picture

I don't have any advice. My SD started acting like she was older than she truly was after she started developing WAY more than others her age. She posted she was 21 on her MySpace when she was really 14.

Long story short, she got pregnant a month after she turned 16. We were even paying for birth control pills for a few months prior. She was so rebellious against her mom's controlling ways that she rebelled into being a teenage unwed mother.

Stepcop's picture

My dh took her phone. I was proud of him. I doubt it will last though. I'm scared to death she will end up pregnant. She started that early too, stuffing her bra, etc at 9!!! And she constantly remarks how so and so said she could pass for 16, so and so said she could pass for 18. Or asking "how old do I look". I always tell her 13, but with stuffing her bra, and being tall, she could probably pass for older. And the kid is stunningly beautiful. She is smart too, has I Mende potential if she wasn't being so dang stupid with it all. Sad