SO the fallout from last week following SS6 telling BM that he walks down to his friend Alex's house (5 houses down) by himself. Which he doesn't, not really. He walks with Alex and I follow behind them at a distance, so that he thinks that he does, he wants to be a big kid like Alex (who runs up and down the street by himself at age

BM didn't accept our explanation of course, she really thinks that we let him run around by himself. So She called FDH and demanded that we not let him go to Alex's house any more because it "dumpy" and she doesn't want him down there. Then she looked up sex offenders in our neighborhood, as it has been posted on here, NOTHING good ever comes for that because they are every where. She txt FDH and told him that there were 6 within a mile of our house - SHE is within a mile of our house!

FDH told me to look it up - I had in the past and yes there are some in the area, none on this street though and there are some by BM house too, which she admitted. I said no because...

If we have no say in what she does at her house then why the hell does she get a say on what goes on at our house? She can comment and voice her concern, it has been noted and we will take her recommendations into consideration. But she does not have a SAY.

I suggested that FDH not engage her this time, she was just looking for a fight or control over him again. So he didn't respond to her txt about sex offenders and left it at that.

I added to it by taking SS6 (whom i baby sit for on her weeks) to Karate class so that she would have to go there and pick him up. That way she wouldn't see FDH. Well she called, SS6 fell last Monday and bumped his head so he didn't go to Karate last week but the doc said this week he could and she told me that I could take him whenever I wanted just to let her know. Well SS6 was tired (he always is at her house), he didn't really want to go so BM called after she picked him up because 'his head wound was pussing and he had a head ache' of course she tossed the sex offender stuff in there too, again FDH ignored her. I am sure he had a headache because he was over tired.

The next day SS6 is over and has a band-ade on his head. FDH rips it off to look at it - it's almost completely healed! She lied, there was no way it pussed, she just wanted to call.

Yesterday she drops the kids off to start OUR week, or course she was late and SS4 was crying. She didn't send the karate clothes, which FDH is going to ask for them. SS6's skin is all broke out for the 2nd week in a row, to the point of bleeding. SS4 is so tired it almost falls asleep at dinner. Both kids need a bath, there is no paper work in SS4 folder from her week and just a reminder for SS6's parent teacher conference in his folder.

Yet when we say something to her about all that stuff, she just ignores us, but expects us to jump in to action when she says something. I know what she is doing, her and FDH have not had a fight since June - mainly because FDH doesn't talk to her much any more even about the kids, he talks to the teacher and doctors more then her because she lies so damn much. He is super involved now and she can't get away with much any more. Plus it is VERY likely that she knows about the engagement and wants to assert her authority over FDH, which she doesn't have any! I told FDH to ignore her or agree with her and then go do your own thing like she does. If she wants to take us to court over something minor I say let her, god knows we have enough on her.

I can see there being a holy war next week when FDH asks/tells BM that we are taking the kids out of state next month to see my family for Christmas (but no on Christmas the weekend before - which is our week, so it doesn't affect her but I am sure there will be some issue) but I told FDH that I will never lie to the kids. Last week was BM's week and when he wanted to go to Alex's I said "no, your mom doesn't want you do there. Maybe next week."