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Sd manipulated a tragic funeral....

Stepcop's picture

Should I be surprised? Nah...but really this is low. I don't blog often, just when it gets too much. Sd13 and I had a huge come to Jesus a few weeks ago. I finally had it. Things got better for a few weeks. Bms cousin's wife, recently married died in a very tragic car accident. Sd has never met these people. She doesn't know them. She insisted on going to the funeral, despite dh trying to tell her she would have to ride with 7 people in a cramped car, people she doesn't typically get along with, for 6 hours, just to be told to stay out of the way. She kept saying she "just felt " she needed to go.
Bm told dh she didn't think it was a good idea, but tells sd it's up to her. Hmmmm trying to make dh the bad guy?? So sd goes, alterior motive undetermined at this point at the whole thing not making sense. So we hear nothing yesterday. It was nice. Today, I watched my nephew5. After he left, dh tells me that sd has gotten in trouble on the funeral trip. Apparently the reason she wanted to go so badly was so that she could contact the young man (not boy, I think he's 16 now) she ran away with last spring break when she was with bm at the beach. She snuck out to the car and called him from her uncles phone and got busted (he is blocked on her phone). She then tried to steal her grandmothers phone to call again.
I'm not looking forward to this kid coming home. She doesn't change. Such a horrible tragedy and she manipulates it to try to see a boy who the last time she saw him was being arrested for a felony!! Way to go sociopath, your futures looking bright!

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Stepcop's picture

I agree blm....problem this time, and a lot lately, is bm won't tell sd no, she tries to get dh to do it for her. That's not fair. Ths was bms family issue, dh tried to reason with sd, but yeah... Logic is lacking in that child on a good day. Dh shouldn't have to be the bad guy for bm all the time. Guess he will have to be, but he shouldn't have to be.

Stepcop's picture

I don't think DH had any reason to tell her not to go. It was BMs weekend, and her event, though tragic as it was. Why should he be the bad guy because BM is spineless. He handles the nos, and discipline 99% of the time. BM should have had the spine to tell her it wasn't an appropriate event for a 13 year old, especially one with SDs issues, but she tried to pawn it off on DH. SS didn't go, that should have been a sign right there. All blame aside, there has not been a calm trip with BM in years, there is always some drama, usually around a boy.

PeanutandSons's picture

But if it was bm's event for bm's family on her visitation weekend...why was it dhs place to say anything?

If the situation was reversed and bm had custody and this was dads family funeral and bm said that SD couldn't go everyone would be saying that bm has no authority on dads time. That dad can make those decisions for his daughter during his parenting time and that bm needs to keep her mouth shut.