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Stepcop's picture

Psycho sd13 has become more entitled than I thought she was. I don't normally like that word, but there really isn't a better one. I always knew she was selfish, narcissistic, princess syndrome. But the other day she came into the living room, and I casually mentioned to please not leave anymore bloody underwear bombs in the laundry, and that I was tired of having this convo with her (before anyone jumps on the don't do her laundry bandwagon, we are in a water restriction, have been for over a year. We can't have her do her laundry and waste the water for just her clothes, we do it all together). So this ended up, short version, with her basically saying it is my job to scub her undies. Um....ewww, first of all....and NO! We have been through this for three years. She just doesn't get it. She argued and argued that basically all jobs she doesn't want to do are mine. I went so far as to tell her if I ever have another period I will bring everything to her to clean. She said that's sick, I said I know, you get it now? She said but that's yours. SIGH. So this somehow turns into a convo of how she does nothing around her but occassionally throwing everything into her closet, or throwing everything in her bathroom into the linen closet...er...I mean cleaning those rooms.

Her rational, I've already cleaned house, I know how. I said, and what about contributing to the family. Again, that's my job. I think she would let me wipe her butt if it wasn't so uncomfortable to be around me. She wanted money for something, and dh had told her no, she has done nothing to earn it. She was livid. Again, the whole doing chores thing came up.

This kid finally showed her hand in front of dh, that I am nothing more to her than hired help. I know she has issues, but all the meds and therapists and psychologists in the world are only making her feel more privileged and special at this point.

I used to love this child, I think I still do on some level, but I am so tired. I'm tired of watching my back, of feeling like she is keeping us prisoner with her threats and lies, and now being demeaned and degraded. I'm just frustrated beyond my limit. I can't seem to find any resolve anymore. Sorry this is jumbled, so is my head.

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hismineandours's picture

They just don't get it? Absolutely no awareness of ho their yuck affects those around them. The best example I can think f is when my ss12 had. Cow because I asked him and my ds to please take the trash out. He was throwing a fit because he isn't want to touch the garbage bag because he said my dd who 8 at the time ( vs ss 12) dirty pull-up was in there, come to find out she hadn't been wearing pull-ups as she didn't need them it was ss's own nasty pull-up inside the bag that e threw there himself but didn't even want to touch the bag. Who the eff you think has been taking out the trash the rest of the week, kid? You are ok with everyone else disposing of your urine bombs but you don't even want to touch them yourself!

oldone's picture

I would tell her that the next time she puts her bloody panties out for you to clean you are going to march up to the school and toss them on her desk in front of everyone.

And then I'd do it.

Stepcop's picture

His mine- I feel you.
Oldone- I read your posts, I don't post often, or comment often, but you always make me laugh. That is much better than me telling her I would put them on her pillow. She hoarded her nasties at one point (not just the undies, but used products) in her room until the dog got ahold of one. I flipped on that. It was sick. Then she started hiding them. She's not embarassed, she's left them on the counter, in her room on the floor, etc. she is just so lazy and smug, she feels it is beneath her to do this herself. Ahhhh! I think this is my next move, to school I go. I threatened her that if she skipped school again and we went to court (she skips and just hangs out in the bathroom :? ) I was going to go to school with her in my pjs and answer questions in class and everything.

Kes's picture

I get this with my SDs 16 and 18 with the bloody underwear. Any I find, I just pick them up with tongs and put them in the dustbin. No way I am scrubbing this stuff! If they can't learn to use sanitary protection effectively by this age they deserve to lose their knickers!

nothinforya's picture

I offer this suggestion just as a possible alternative for SMs who have to deal with this kind of stuff....go to a big-box store and buy SD 30-40 pairs of the cheapest panties they have. If they get bloody, tell SD to throw them out, don't put them in the laundry. The cost is really small in comparison to the suffering of SMs everywhere. I often think about picking the battles, and deciding if this is a hill to die for. Usually, it is not. SD will grow out of this eventually, but the entitled princess mentality is almost impossible to correct in the short term, so maybe an alternative makes SM happier.