So BM switched DH's visitation days without his consent, and kept SD from seeing him for 2 of his visitation times. He is taking her to court for it. She did the EXACT same thing last year. The judge got on her about it, but told DH that it looked like he wasn't serious about seeing SD, because DH refused to randomly switch...So THIS time DH made the effort to just get SD the days SHE switched to AND the days that were rightfully his...(That was one of the judges issues with DH. That he didn't TRY). It wasn't that DH didn't try, he didn't want any violence from BM if he tried to get SD on his day...

So in his effort to show effort per the judge, DH went to get SD from school. Lo and behold BM was there. DH informed her that it was HIS day, and he wasn't going to randomly switch with her. BM threw a fit and walked out with SD. DH stayed back and talked to the administrators to request something in writing that they witnessed him attempting to get SD in case the judge got on him again for not at least trying. When he left, BM and SD were waiting for him. She goes into how it's not his day, but SD can choose who she wants to go with (WHAT FCUKTARD PUTS THEIR KID THROUGH THIS???). Her caveat to SD was that she was going to miss so and so's party and she wasn't going to have any fun. DH stopped the foolishness (as SD started crying) and told BM that SD doesn't get to choose, it's his day and BM knows it. So he took SD's hand and they walked to DH's car. BM followed screaming and cussing. DH put SD in the car and got into the car himself. BM proceeds to beat on his window. DH rolled down his window and told her to stop touching his car. So she starts rubbing on his car like a fool...talking about, "I can touch it if I want to..." DH drives off...

At 10pm, our door bell rings. It's the police. BM went down to the jail or where you go to report shit, and said that DH attacked her. She filed a report. They came and picked DH up and took him to jail. DH was very calm and polite to the police officers, and I invited them into our home. DH went upstairs changed clothes and made copies of all the paperwork he had on BM...how she attacked him and went to jail, etc. The officer told DH that he didn't need that stuff, but he took it anyway. As we were waiting for DH, I was asking the officers questions as I'm clueless on the whole process outside of what I see on freaking CSI...They told me that DH would be there for 12 hours and would have a hearing...ok...wow...

While we're talking, one of the officers says to me, "You know...This situation is weird. I see this stuff every day, and I've been doing this for 15 years...This is the first time I've seen something this tense after so many years of the couple not being together. Your husband told me that his daughter is 8 years old, and he and her mom have never been together. So she's had 8 years for things to cool down and she hasn't. I usually see this type of stuff with a new break up or a break up within a few years...not 8..." I told the officer that well it hasn't been 8 years of drama...It's been more like 5. I told him that DH and BM were great until 2007 when he asked me to marry him. DH and BM had great communication. They didn't even have a CO in place. DH even had access to her bank account and deposited support into her account every 2 weeks...He got SD ALLLLLL the time...Once he got engaged (and I told him to get a CO in place), he became a rapist, drug dealer, molester, and a danger to SD...And no...They weren't romantically involved after she got pregnant with SD...

So they cart my DH off, and I'm expecting not to hear hide nor hair from him until late tomorrow morning. I get a call from DH at 12am. He's being released...Wow...What happened? Great thinking that he took the paperwork with him because he was able to show the judge what he's been dealing with, and she believed him and let him go. He did have to post bond, though...$130 down the toilet...(a drop in the bucket compared to BM's $1500 for attacking him...but I digress...)...

What baffles me is that IMO, BM has NO regard or care for her child...Seriously...The thought of sending DH to jail was soooo strong that she didn't even care about what happened to her child in that time...She does NOT want me around her, so he's not here...who will she be with?? ME....and even worse, what if I WASN'T here?? Where would her child be??? Protective Services...Her bitterness and hate for DH out weighed the possibility that her child would be in protective services?? My mind is blown...

Oh the mother phucking drama...