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I just can't help but to SMDH...

shielded2009's picture

I swear...

I'm just a little speechless...

Sooo...DH and BM don't have the best relationship...Well they did prior to me coming into the picture...It wasn't that they were buddies or anything, but DH never got drama from BM regarding seeing his daughter, being involved, etc...

After I came into the picture it all changed (as I'm seeing is more of the norm than not). She's now VERY negative towards DH and tries to keep him out of everything as it pertains to SD...She used to show up at SD's day care or school and literally scream and try to fight him...The establishments had to threaten to call the police on her and forbade her from being there when it was time for DH to pick SD up...

So DH doesn't go to any of SD's functions...He tried to bring it up to the judge, but he wasn't hearing it, so DH said he'd just sit it out because he had more responsibilities than just SD, and if BM was going to try to get him caught up in some foolishness, he wasn't going to put himself or his family in that situation...

She's done it ALL...She's accused him of raping her...Accused him of being violent and a drug dealer...Accused him of molesting SD...All of it...

DH has been investigated and the issues were always dropped...

So...with that dynamic, he keeps his distance on A LOT of fronts.

So last year at this time, BM took DH to court for the 17th time (since 2007). The judge is understandably tired of them...especially her...She took DH to court to get his visitation revoked because DH missed a lot of his days...Why? Because she's tried to fight him and is verbally abusive, DH requested that their pick up/drop offs take place at the police station. The judge agreed. So what she'd start doing was sending him text messages to pick SD up from random places other than the police station. DH has always refused, rinsing and repeating on the court order...

When they got before the judge she had great documentation of DH not getting SD...The judge even sided with BM UNTIL DH referred to the court order...Oh...yeah...So long story short the judge denied BM's request and even allowed DH to get the missed days back...

So as they were leaving the court house, DH said, "Wow...That was a total waste of time"...And why did he say that??? BM flipped out and attacked DH in front of 2 police officers. Long story short they threw her dumb ass in jail for 24 hours with $10K bond after that...

It was a nightmare for DH. He had to go to court for her hearing, as BM plead not guilty (even though she's on camera assaulting DH and the witnesses to the assault were 2 police officers...). Then she started up the lies about DH being violent to SD again...When DH would pick her up from the police station, it was usually dramatic with SD screaming and crying...(She wouldn't do this when DH would pick her up from school, however)...

So after all that drama, her court dates kept being pushed back. Once for her "witness", a guy that she had with her that initially said he didn't see anything when the police were filing the report...He was quickly dismissed...How do you go from not seeing anything to NOW seeing something? Next...Then she got it pushed back again for something else...

So they ended up having a trial, and she continued to scream innocent, so the judge sent the matter to the Grand Jury...Really? Is it THAT serious? Apparently, so...

So here we are waiting, and DH JUST found out yesterday that she went ahead and plead out...So now she has 6 months probation and has 40 hours of community service to complete...

A whole damn year later...She could have BEEN finished with this punishment 6 months ago had she just pled no contest THEN!!!

I just can't...SMDH...

Then DH finds out SD is acting a fool at school...She sees a counselor, but BM goes up to the school before DH gets there to get her progress folder that the teacher fills out daily...He converses with the teacher regularly, but this is just the beginning of the school year, so he didn't know she was being THAT awful. Yesterday, when DH picked her up, her progress folder was there. BM forgot it as she was up there dealing with other matters...She was dealing with the fact that SD had written a total of 6 letters to a girl pretty much threatening the girl's life...Telling the little girl that she was going to die in 3 days among other stuff...BM took 5 of the letters (all of them she thought), but left the folder. The teacher actually had one left, and she gave it to DH along with the progress folder. DH talked to the teacher, and the teacher informed DH that because of the nature of the letters and the frequency of them, she had to report this to CPS...

This is too much damn drama for me...

A bitter and angry woman is raising a bitter and angry child...

Comments

Doubletakex3's picture

Oh my goodness. Your story reads like a horror movie. I'm so sorry you, DH and SD are embroiled in such a mess. I wish I had some useful advice. I can only hope that CPS will see the situation for what it is and intervene and get SD some help and perhaps protection from her toxic mother. Your DH must be heartbroken.

{{{{HUGS}}}}

shielded2009's picture

Thanks so much...

DH is a heartbroken wreck...I really feel sorry for him because he's trying to not stress and bring that energy home...