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Repeating cycle.....?

Willow2010's picture

So SS is finally getting out of the military tomorrow! 6 years ago, I would have told you it would never have lasted but it did. He was almost kicked out a few times but now he is out.

He is still trying to milk the government though. He started trying late last year and it looked like he was going to get a medical discharge with 100 percent disability benefits for life. However about a month ago, they told him there was nothing wrong with him and put him back on full duty. Lol. But he ALREADY has an appointment with the VA to get DRs appointments set up so he can still try to claim a medical issue so he can get paid every month for the rest of his life.

But the main reason for this post is that SSs wife had baby and BM has lost her ever loving mind. I mean to the point that SS is getting really angry with her. Im sorry but…bahahaha!! (shame on me)

She acts like that baby is hers and she also acts like this baby is the second coming of Christ. I thought she was bad about being this way with SS but apparently she was hiding some of her loon and is WAY worse about this baby. She post several times a day about the baby on FB (baby is over a month old now) She is also the first one to respond to any post about the baby. She starts out every post with AWWWW…grandson misses me!!!!

She tries to tell SS and DIL how everything they are doing wrong. When the baby was a newborn, SS had to actually tell her that she needed to let his wife hold the baby. And BM got pissed off! They ended up having a giant fight and BM left their house for a while to go cool off. (BM stayed with them for a week after baby was born). SS and DIL were both not happy about that.

They were supposed to move back to our state, where we all live, but SS is now thinking of going somewhere else because he said that BM will make their life miserable if they move too close. Again I am sorry but bahahaha!!

Normally, I would not believe too much of what SS says but I actually heard a lot of this from DIL. Of course BM and SS are back to being BFFs but it was nice for SS to finally see and understand how crazy she can be.

Have any of you seen BM go off the deep end for a grandkid like this? It is so weird. This lady is taking it to the next level with her crazy over the kid. There are many more instances that are just strange.

And the baby is a cutie!! But all I see is the whole cycle starting over between BM and DH. They will have another kid to try and impress and fight over. GAG.

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Willow2010's picture

Not a chance it hell that would happen. Gives me chills just thinking about it.

DH and I have already discussed it and he is on the same page. I might let the baby stay but not anyone else. lol

robin333's picture

Willow, I'm sure grandkids will be complicated in steplife but I hope not for a long while.

notasm3's picture

"Have any of you seen BM go off the deep end for a grandkid like this? "

Yes this is what has happened with SS32's GF's mother. She bought the GF a house and a new car. And every piece of baby furniture ever made. Plus she keeps the baby every weekend so the "kids" can go party.

I've noticed that SS32's mother doesn't seem to be very involved at all. But she's 60 and has a job and a life. The GF's mother is in her early 40s and only works part time. That grandchild is her life. Which is probably not a bad thing since the two parents are not the most responsible people.

Willow2010's picture

I didn't think his 100 percent medical pipe dream would pan out.
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I was actually a little surprised it did not work out for ss. DH knows several from the marines that have disability for really stupid reasons. The best one being that a guy kicked a pole at a bar (while in the service) and tore up a ligament. He has been out of service for years but still gets about 700 a month for being 45% disabled. And he works a full time physical job! How is that right!?

DH is embarrassed that SS is trying so hard to get a disabled benefit, but DH is the one who used to talk about his old buddies and how easy it is for them to live off the government tit for so long. DH said it will be easier for him to get disability benefits once he is out. I still don’t understand at all but I will be surprised if he does not walk away with some type of free money for the rest of his life. Just burns my butt.

Ninji's picture

Most of the people I work with get some amount of disability payments. One co-worker keeps telling me to go back to the VA and file a claim. It's pretty common.

Jlbfinch's picture

That grandma sounds like my mom, she stayed the night and she's in my two month old twins' room right now telling them she's going to sneak them out in her suitcase bc I won't let them go with her back to her house. The reason I said no is bc she already had them for an entire week, less than a week ago!

Maxwell09's picture

My SS is about to be six but I'm willing to bet BM will be this way when he does have kids. My DH swears once SS turns 18, BM will cease to exist even though I told him he's throwing his head in the sand . Truth is DH will want to be a part of his grandkids lives even if BM will be there too. I'm hoping we can retire to Florida and be those grandparents that send holiday/special occasion gifts via mail carrier.

notsobad's picture

BM will be like this.
SD is 28, not in a relationship and has said she's not sure she even wants kids.

When SD was 25 -26 BM told her to look into getting her eggs frozen because She wanted to be a Grandma. She blew a fuse and didn't talk to SD for about a week (they chat daily normally) when SD said she might not want any. BM is still coaxing and cajoling SD, saying she doesn't really mean it and someday she'll change her mind.

Guess we'll have to wait and see.

thinkthrice's picture

One of my coworkers has a lucrative side biz of dog breeding. She is about 5 ' tall and just as wide. The biz is in her name only--sole proprietor. Yet her 6' husband with a "bad back" on 100% disability actually runs the biz.

KittyKatMomma's picture

My SD is only 16 but she already told BM if BM tries to act batshit crazy when SD has any kids-she's handing the kids over to me and DH and BM will never lay eyes on SD's kids.

All because of how BM acted when BM's sister and their SIL had their babies (both ladies had babies back to back on purpose-BM was spayed years ago after having her YDD9)

SS10 swears he's never having children

But I know BM would act batshit crazy if ANY of her kids (bio or step) become parents.
Thankfully her SD18 and my SD16 are heavily protected with birth control (they get the shot faithfully) and use condoms.