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Submitted by Willow2010 on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:02pm

DH and SS are good buddies and talk every day, sometimes more than once.  They have always been pretty close.  (Just for reference)

SSs facebook post are disgusting.  I mean just nasty rude and vulgar.  I hid SS’s post long ago as did most everyone I know who is friends with him.  Well a few weeks ago he posted one particular nasty one and DH even got disgusted and told him he should not be posting crap like that.  They had a few words and SS told him that if he did not like it then he needs to unfriend him cause he is going to post whatever he wants and he does not care who is offended.   

Then SS called DH a few days later and starts off the conversation with this…”Dad, there are some things that have been bothering me and I want to discuss them with you.”  SS then proceeds to tell DH that has been upset for years due to….…

  1. DH did not stay at his HS graduation party as long as SS thought he should have. 
  2. DH missed a lot since he will not “grow up” and hang out with BM.
  3. DH used to not pick him up and not call for his visitation.   
  4. DH got behind on CS and BM had issues because of it.
  5. DH would not go on a cruise with SS and BM.  SS was in his early 20s.
  6. And many more slights that SS all of the sudden is upset about.   

 

Most of that is BS.  3 and 4 are blad face lies.  DH was floored and was either hollering or crying during this conversation.  He was crushed that SS actually believed all of that crap.  I try to stay out of their issues but I was MAD and told DH that I don’t think for one minute that SS believed any of that.  He just wanted to punish DH because he embarrassed him about his facebook so SS was getting back at him.  (Because SS is a manipulative little shit and always has been)

 

Moral of this story is that…SS is almost 27ish and he and BM still cause crap in our lives even with them both living far away.  UGH.  It never ends.  IT. NEVER. ENDS. 

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Ispofacto's picture

Submitted by Ispofacto on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:06pm

DH needs to stop reacting.  SS complaints were idiotic.  I would have rolled my eyes and ended the conversation.  People know better than to start stupid crap like this with someone who won't listen to it.

 

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:11pm

Yep, that's what I was thinking.  If my SS19 said that stuff to DH, he'd say, "So, I see you are still believing everything your mother tells you, huh?", and call him out on his own stuff.

If your DH knows BM is manipulative, and SS is manipulative, why would he get so upset?

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:15pm

"Hmm SS that's an interesting re-write on history you just did there. Well hate to cut you off but I have (fill in blank) to go do. Have a nice weekend, love you."

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:18pm

It was just so out of left field. 

 

Oh DH does not think SS is manipulative.  (most of the time).  SS is perfect and farts rainbows. 

 

 "So, I see you are still believing everything your mother tells you, huh?"

And this is almost exactly what DH said he wished he would have said…after the fact.  He was just in defensive mode and taken by surprise.    

 

 SS and BM are both just crazy and I am so scared they are going to move back here in a few years and then the crap will really hit the fan.  Ugh

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:20pm

Hmm SS that's an interesting re-write on history you just did there. Well hate to cut you off but I have (fill in blank) to go do. Have a nice weekend, love you."

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 PERFECT!

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Submitted by twopines on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 2:50pm

You're absolutely right; it never ends. When SD33 is feeling sorry for herself, she starts in on DH. I guess she wants him to feel as miserable as she feels at the moment. I highly doubt she bothers her mother with her BS. It's ridiculous. 

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 3:45pm

Yup. Those unfortunate character traits are permanent. Adult skids just learn how to hide them better.

 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 3:31pm

Hes 27? Lol...I was a single parent to a 6 year old, owned a home and worked a full time professional job at 27. Not that I expect everyone to be doing all those things at a certain age, but the point is I was long past whining about or even really caring what my parents did because I had been an adult for nearly a decade and made my own life. I could actually say a lot of that list was true for my own dad also, but so what it wasnt relevant anymore. I really have so little sympathy and zero patience for adults whining about how everything is everyone else fault...there are people who overcome a lot more than his stupid list and create lives for themselves. 

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Submitted by Wilhelm on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 3:31pm

I expect deep down SS does believe these things. They are what he has been fed over and over by BM..

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Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 03/21/2019 - 3:53pm

Oh, geez, my SD27 does the same exact same thing. Gets upset about something and suddenly brings up all of the bullshit that her mother has convinced her of, going back to when she was a child. And she wonders why her relationship with DH is the way it is.