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Willow2010's picture

 

Last week was my sons 1st full week of summer visitation.  (He has standard visitation but summers are just 2, one week increments, and not the normal 30 days because she is only 2)

 Bat crap crazy BM lasted 4 days before her AND her father called my son and told (screamed) him to bring the child to them.  He told them no, that she is fine and having a good time and he will bring her back when his parenting time is up.  So they called the police to try and press kidnapping charges.  Stupid idiots.    

DS called the police and told them the situation and they said they still had to come by and do a wellness check on the baby.  He said that was absolutely fine and to come on over.  Well BM and her dad beat the cops there and started banging on DS and his fiancés front door and screaming to bring out his EFING grandchild.  The cops show up and tell him to stand down and he said he was not leaving without HIS grandchild.  Cop looked him dead in the eye and said…”wanna bet?”  He also told him that this was not his child and he needed to stay out of it and he would go to jail if he stepped foot on the property again.  yay

So after a little back and forth the idiots finally left.  Now the thing is…the police would not even look at the CO and make sure it was DS s parenting time.  They told him and BM (separately) that they could do nothing about it at all.  It was a civil matter and would have to go through the courts for ANYTHING.   So I bet you now that BM was told that little gem of info, she will start keeping the baby away from DS.  What an absolute mess.  She is WAAAAY worse than DHs ex ever thought about being.  Way to go son.  GGGRRRR.

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Willow2010's picture

Oh ... and he just found out that she is STILL breast feeding.  I know some people are ok with 2 year olds breast feeding but I think it is extremely gross and not good for them at all.  Baby is constantly constipated when DS gets her and I wonder if that is why.  So I think that may be one reason BM wanted her back so soon because she was drying up.  

GoingWicked's picture

I bet you think it’s just fine to drink cow breast milk at 40 *scratch_one-s_head*

elkclan's picture

BM might well be crazy, but I was still breastfeeding my son at age 2 and it's not gross. It's pretty normal actually. BM is an idiot not to have stipulated that there couldn't be extended periods of visitation with dad until full weaning. 

 

lieutenant_dad's picture

Why should Dad miss out on visitation and bonding time with his infant (which is SUPER important) just because BM wants to breastfeed?

BM can pump. Dad can supplement with formula. I do understand the importance of breastfeeding, but I think making sure a kid gets properly bonded with BOTH parents beats out on preferred feeding method, especially when there are plenty of options for making sure baby gets breast milk and good nutrition. And that is even more true now that the kid is 2 and likely not exclusively breast fed.

beebeel's picture

Um no. I breastfed until 18 months and by then my son was already eating three full meals of solids every day. It really stops being a "feeding" method well before age 2. It became a soothing method for naps and bedtimes. Get the kid a pacifier and he will be just fine with dad.

advice.only2's picture

Yep the cops can't do anything other than ensure the child is with one of the parents and then direct them to the courts once they open on Monday!

Grandhag showed up one time with the cops claiming she had custody (the stupid cop who should have made her show him her paperwork) asked DH to show his paperwork, which he did. The cop turned a bit purple out of his own stupidity and told the grandhag she had no rights to be there, I told her to get off our property because she was trespassing and not welcome. She glared at me and told me to butt out this was a family matter. The cop finally got over his embarrassment and told her she needed to leave or he would arrest her. She stared at us all like a deer in headlights and refused to budge. Finally the cop was all I'm serious I will bring you in on charges of trespassing. That got the old fat hag hoofing it!

justmakingthebest's picture

Oh wow... well, one thing to tell your son is there is something called a writ of assistance. If BM is refusing to let your son have his daughter, with a writ, the police can assist. However, he has to have to court order to back it up. I have been told that a magistrate can order a writ but usually it is a judge. He might have to  get a lawyer involved but it might be worth it to put her in her place early on.

As for the breastfeeding... while I agree that 2 is too old for my personal self interest, eh... to each their own. I know several who BF until their kids were 3-4-5. Usually at that point it is a night time, story time, comfort thing. I also can't imagine that being what is backing her up. However, general changes in the diets at the 2 households could. 

Willow2010's picture

 I know several who BF until their kids were 3-4-5

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 *bad* GAG.  Sorry but yuk.  

 Not sure constipation can come from him feeding her 4 days a month.  (he sees her every thursday but BM feeds her right before DS picks her up).   And thanks...I will tell him about the writ.  

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Maybe your son could put his BM on notice that he WILL be dragging her into court each. and. every. time she violates the custody agreement? And he will likely have to follow through, but she might get tired of having to appear in court.

tog redux's picture

That never worked for my DH - and where will he get the money?

Just another HCBM who is going to beat the system.

lieutenant_dad's picture

Tog, there is hope on the horizon! The family court judge from my home county was disrobed (or whatever you do to judges) and suspended for not playing fair in the courts. I was shocked given how conservative Anti-Canada is (especially in my home county), but it gave me hope!

StrawberryPie's picture

Ugh, sorry you and your son are going through this!  But good for your son for standing up for himself!