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Submitted by Unhappy on Mon, 06/18/2012 - 6:24pm

So this actually happened a couple of weeks ago bit it has bugged me ever since.

DH's Grandfather passed away and his mother, who lives out of state, wanted us to bring all of the kids over to see her. I think it was to get her mind off of losing her father, which I understand. Now this happened on BM's week with the kids so DH had to text her asking if he could have the kids. Do you think after she agreed to letting DH take the kids that the convo was over? Nope. She then asked DH if she could come to the funeral. DH's family hate her with a passion. She was very abusive and controlling to DH. She was disrespectful to his parents and treated his brother like crap. She even went as far as to post nasty comments on facebook about both of his parents calling them names and saying nasty things about them, which DH's mother saw and read when Dh and her were going through their divorce. They want nothing to do with her.

DH told her that the situation was already going to be awkward and that there are still some hard feelings there. Did she get the point? Nope. She responded with a, "you would think in a situation like this people would just put their feeling aside." News flash BM, they hate you. His Grandfather hated you and would have probably had a fit if this was mentioned to him before he passed.

One would think that would be the end of her BS but not in the land of crazy. When we returned home she had mailed DH a card letting him know if there was anything that he needed to let her know. Really nutjob?!? He has a wife and you're not it. In fact you're married to the biggest loser you could find to move in with you. I really wanted to send her text letting her know that we appreciated the card and if there's anything DH needed he would be talking to me about it.

You guys may think that this was just a kind gesture on her behalf but don't be fooled. She stalked him for the first year of our relationship and we're talking full on sit outside of your house at 3 am stalking. She tried to break us up. Tried to get their BD to break us up. Sent him countless texts about how she was still in love with him. Sent him pictures of herself. Showed up at the house when both DH and I were at work without our approval or knowledge of it. She even went as far as to show up at my BD's(5 at the time) school after she was told to stay away from her and try to invite her over to her house to play. This lady is nuts.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Mon, 06/18/2012 - 7:39pm

I understand stalking. BM and DH divorced 14 years ago. She wanted nothing to do with him until he met me. She stalked him for a couple of years. She begged him to put her on our phone plan. She planted stories in SD10's head so it would be repeated to me.
Crazy bitch!! She still stalks him. Not as much since we moved out of that crazy town but it still aggravates me.

Yours sound a little nuttier maybe!!

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Submitted by Aislinn81 on Tue, 06/19/2012 - 8:30am

Welcome to my world. DH's grandmother passed away three years ago. I tried to be at least a little sympathetic because DH and BM were together for 12 years, but Memaw stayed with us for about three months prior to her passing away because of one of the bigger Hurricane's so I got to talk to her A LOT. Memaw was heartbroken by what BM did to DH. The ONLY time I ever heard her curse was when she was referring to BM. She told me numerous times that she was thrilled that DH found me and that he was finally happy.

The skids were with BM when we got the call that Memaw passed. DH called BM who got hysterical, told him that she would allow the kids to go to the funeral, BUT ONLY if he came over to her apartment so they could tell the kids together. And no, that was not negotiable. DH said he got over there and she tried to hug him, he batted her away, she tried to hold his hand while they told the kids, he got up and moved. He practically RAN out of the apartment afterwards with the kids.

She DEMANDED that she be able to read the Eulogy at the funeral "because that's what Memaw would've wanted". Yeah...no. We told her no. She typed up the Eulogy anyway and sent it with SD to read and gave her specific instructions NOT to tell anyone until the funeral, to just go up there and read it....(she was 8 at the time). SD walked right in the door and handed the Eulogy to MIL and said "Here, Mom wanted me to read this at the funeral but I'm not doing it". She kept calling demanding she be able to be present to the point that my SIL answered the phone and told her if she showed up at the funeral, she would be on the receiving end of a serious ass kicking. So she sent her parents. She also sent a giant flower arrangement from her and the kids (MIL took them and threw them in a nearby pond after the gravesite ceremony).

This was around Veteran's Day and SD had one first place at the school for a piece she wrote about Memaw that she was supposed to read in front of the school but that was the day of the funeral. So BM went up there instead and read in sobbing hysterically in front of the entire school.

It was horrible, all of us were just so wrung out after the death anyway, and then to add to it with BM's crap made it even worse. On the bright side, there is no one left in the family that she likes, so hopefully this will not repeat itself.