“You have custody too, ya know.”
DH shared this with me the other day. He told me that BM said this to him when she was trying to get SD13 out of her hair before the Stay At Home order went into effect.
I tried not to LOL but I couldn't help it. He laughed a little and said that he could use that to his advantage in the future if needed.
Yes BM, DH does have custody - joint legal custody. You BM, have physical custody.
DH even remarked again today why he's relieved SD is not with us. Dr. Phil was on (I was waiting for the news to come on) and he said something about the kids stepping up and taking responsibility for things while they're home (schoolwork, chores, etc.). SD is almost 14, so she doesn't need DH looking over her shoulder or doing everything for her.
SD would enjoy her time at BM's anyway. She told us she stayed up until 8am and then slept all day, and that it is her "new normal." If she was with us, that would not be happening.