So were you gonna tell me?
DH wanted to get SD14 for a couple days before she starts her practices at school. He planned to get her Sunday since he knew she would want to be at BM's for fireworks on the 4th.
The plan was to get her Sunday morning. Well, BM texts and said that SD wanted a later pick up time. We figured that she had just woken up and wasn't ready to go and needed to do laundry. Hours go by and BM texts saying that SD's phone isn't working and she's taking her to the phone store, but BM has to work so picking up SD isn't going to work.
By the time I put the baby to bed I still didn't know what the plan was for the next day. I figured DH was going to pick up SD Monday morning. Fast forward to Monday morning and turns out they were going to meet at 10. I get home from an errand and DH said it's now going to be around 4. I said "what's the point?" She would get to our house, only for DH to have to take her to practice tomorrow around lunch time.
DH went to go play with DD4 and I was getting ready to feed DS, so I brought him his phone. Now yes, I did see the text convo between him and BM, but he doesn't care if I see it. BM's text this morning about changing the pick up time said "I didn't know SD invited friends over to swim today, so can we make the pick up time later?" I called him on it because he didn't tell me that it was changed so she could have friends over. He told me that he was mad about and didn't say anything at the time.
Was he going to say something?!? I told him I was not happy about her coming to her house after hanging out with friends because you know they're not social distancing themselves. And if BM didn't even know, who's to say she hasn't been hanging out with other friends. Maybe I'm a little paranoid about the COVID-19 stuff, but I don't want to expand my social circle to include SD and alllllll her friends that don't seem to care. Ugh.
DH at least texted BM that we should just not bother with pick up, but she tried to say "well, you'll at least get some time with her." I told him that he needs to just straight up tell her that he's not comfortable with SD coming if she's had friends over.