Badgers me for more time, doesn't take what he has!
My crazy ex is relentless about wanting Wed night visitation which he does not have as a part of our custody agreement. The a$$hole must bring it up at least twice a month. However the last 4 weekends that he has had BS7, I have had to take BS for at least part of ex's weekends.
This weekend BS was invited to a birthday party which ex first said no to. His nephew is having his first birthday party. Out of the blue he changed his mind only if we could work out the driving ( ie I do it all) and if I started being a whole lot nicer to him ( give in to all his crazy demands ).
I have to drive 40 minutes to former BIL's house to get him for the party and then pick him up from the party. I offered to drive BS back to exes apartment (30 minutes away) at 8:45pm when the partyat my house or in the am. 2 issues it will be BS's bed time by then and ex doesn't get up and going until after noon on weekends ( BS says he sleeps most of the time he is there...thankfully older step sons are there)and BS is supposed to be home by 5pm.
Additionally he will not work out what is going on for Christmas because he thinks he might have a new job. Per the decree he has BS from 9am to 8pm and he can call in sick for work constantly but wont take off the day or even a couple of hours to spend with his kids BUT will not give the day up so I can go home to my family. I have asked twice because I am supposed to go to my boyfriends familys house and need to know what time I can be there. He will NOT even address it.
He is also on about his 6th GF since May. BS could really care less most the time about going and I am just sick and tored of the asshole dictating our time.
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Hi Ripley! I started dating
Hi Ripley! I started dating this guy in mid August and I ended up falling in love with him and he with me. He is my complete opposite but he is so amazingly sweet and caring and childless! He is an over the road truckdriver so he is gone quite a bit, but he calls me every night. He has met my son and is very good with him and is the most supportive man I have ever met. He is great about the fact I have no desire to live with or marry again. He is fiscally responsble, owns his own home and loves and supports me.
I think what I am going to
I think what I am going to have to do is drop BS off after 5pm when the a$$ gets off work and then pick BS up at 9pm on my way home from BF's moms house.
He absolutely will not discuss that holiday. All he will say is not right now or that if I let him have Wed nights then he will make a decision by the end of the day...probably the same decision I am suggesting above.
It really isn't surpising, except you would think he would want the time he gets since he is relentless about wanting more time.
BS doesn't want more time, nor does his therapist feel it would be beneficial.
We deal with the same issue.
We deal with the same issue. When it's supposed to be DH's time, she expects him to change the time to fit her schedule. However, when it's her time, she still wants it changed to fit her schedule. I told DH, either stick to the CO or change it. I'm tired of having my life/holidays/schedule have to constantly change for someone who doesn't care about anyone (the children included) but herself.
I do try and not vary from
I do try and not vary from the CO and stick only email/text and about BS only. BS had begged me to try and get his dad to let him go to this. He has had a hard time this year because non of his friends from last year were in his class.
Trust me if I don't stay on task with him he is trying to drop in and all sorts of crap. He doesn't get that he agreed to the CO and he needs to follow it.