Sd6 cannot use iPad but plays on 3ds
DH asked BM if it was ok for sd6 to take an iPad with her so she may call him on FaceTime vs oovoo since there are a few interruptions when she uses a laptop. Connection is bad or we have to keep calling back because sd6 can't hear us. The iPad would solve the problem with these issues. She wouldn't have to oovoo
Anymore, she could just FaceTime and there would be no problem. BM agree that the iPad would be a good idea because there are also some keys that are missing from their laptop.
Well, when BM got home, things must've changed. Sd6 has been back home for almost two weeks and we've spoken to her about 5 times. She is still using the laptop. Still dealing with the same issues. BM said that they are using the iPad as a reward system so that sd6 can get back on schedule with her sleeping. Sd6 is back on track with that. Still no iPad. There are games and movies on the iPad and we understand if they are trying to limit her with those things, but at least let her use it when it's time to talk to DH.
DH spoke to sd6 and oovoo and she showed him her new 3ds. She got it for Christmas and was really excited for it. She said she gets to play on it every day. Hmm. Weird. So DH sent them this email
Just got off with Sd6 and would it possible for her to use the iPad to oovoo or FaceTime next session? I understand why she can't use it to play or watch movies but I think it would be simpler with all the issues the laptop. Also, sd6 showed me her 3DS and she told me she has been able to play it. So I am wondering what is the difference with playing 3DS vs playing/watching/calling on the iPad? I ask because the rule of having the iPad as a reward for her getting back on track with sleeping and behavior. The iPad is a way to connect and communicate with me so her using it just to call I would feel be ok.
BM and bmh's reply:
The difference between her having her 3DS is that we've been planning on buying one for her for months. Just because she showed up back home with an iPad doesn't mean we are going to restrict her 3DS usage. We are comfortable with using the laptop for calls and the idea of the iPad coming along with her came out of nowhere. You didn't consult us on the rules of our house before you decided it was okay to send an iPad over with her. Just because you think it's okay doesn't mean that it is okay for her to use the iPad over here. You have rules at your house and we have rules at our house.
I truly feel like they don't want her using the iPad because they know she'll just FaceTime DH whenever. but BM said it was ok!! Bullshit..
What's funny is that, when sd6 was with us last summer, her first couple weeks with us was tough. She was missing her mom and told her mom she wanted to call more. BM wrote and email to DH and asked if sd6 (5years old at the time) could call. BM said she knows the the CO has specific days, but those are just guidelines. Only when it's convientient for them I guess.